FROM: Melissa
RE: Have some respect
DATE: October 31, 2011
"Value yourself enough to choose to be with someone who wants you as much as you want them."I came across that quote yesterday, boys, and quickly realized it was the perfect opener for today's lesson. And before you ask, no, this is not about me. I promise.
Respect.
Everybody wants it and thinks they deserve it. And yet, some are so unwilling to give it in return. And when it comes to respect and relationships, the two are mutually exclusive; you can't have one without the other. I know how difficult it can be to always love yourself. After all, we're our own worst critic, and all it takes is one look in the mirror and we're already rattling off a laundry list of our supposed "shortcomings."
It saddens me to see that, of course, but what makes me downright sick to my stomach, boys? People who see that vulnerability in other people and pounce on it as if it were their own chew toy to do with it whatever they'd like.In recent months, I've seen this happen, and honestly, it just broken my heart. No, wait, it more than breaks my heart. It disgusts me. How could you ever think so little of someone that you think it would be OK to pretend to care about them? How could you ever think it would be OK to blatantly use someone as if they were your puppet on a string? Well here's a wake-up call, boys: It's not OK. Pretending you care about someone just so you can get what you want is about as low as you can go. And not feeling bad about said pretending is stooping even lower. It makes me wonder how in the world you ended up with such a skewed sense of values. Or if you even have any at all.
So I suppose that it should come as no surprise that if, in the very unlikely of circumstances, I should find myself in a "relationship" with one of you, boys, you can be sure I'm going to call you out on it. Because those type of boys? They aren't to be respected. They aren't to be cheered. In my mind, they aren't even to be liked. They are cowards. They are jerks. Everyone deserve more than that. They are worth more than that.
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11 Comments:
I could not agree more, Melissa...this is so, so important and something I think we all need and truly deserve! Thank you so, so much! Your lovely blog always brings inspiration to me!
Liesl :)
R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
So true. Men who have respect for women are definitely a turn-on.
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I should think it very unlikely you would ever be with one of THOSE boys...They sound sucky and awful
Thank you so much for this post! Everything you said is TRUE! and us, girls, should know better to try and stay away from them. I know that it's hard by we have to protect ourselves from all the pain and heartbreaks in the end.
"Value yourself enough to choose to be with someone who wants you as much as you want them."
LOVE THAT QUOTE! ^^^
:)
Carrie
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this is exactly what i've been thinking. before i begin, this is college, which makes it more pathetic. i'd been avoiding being my usual joking self with this guy in my class, because he was flirting with me all the time, texting me calling me "hun," begging me to come visit him at work. i just talked to him, as friends do. no flirting because i wasn't interested and didn't want him to get the wrong message. low and behold last week he walks right by me with his girlfriend, knowing i see him, returning without his girlfriend five minutes later flirting with me more than ever before. boys are idiots, melissa. i shouldn't be surprised but i'm pissed! sorry, had to rant. if you want a relationship be prepared to be pissed off a few or more times when you're dealing with guys.
oh and in case you're wondering, i stopped talking to him. i'm a no-nonsense girl and he's a dog.
Melissa I love that you tell it like it is. And frankly what you just said, needs to be said. So thank you!
Ah Melissa, you are so on point here! Everyone deserves respect. It would be a much better world if everyone would heed your advice. xoxo
april, that's AWFUL! I'm so sorry.. *hugs*
I'm glad you stopped talking to him.
Alexa, thanks so much! xoxo
thank you, don't feel bad! it's not my loss at all ;) i had no feelings for him so it's just a lesson learned!
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