TO: Men all over the planet
RE: Virginity myths
DATE: December 5, 2011
Boys, Madonna sang about it. Steve Carell poked fun at it. And there's an alcoholic drink named after it. And yet, I can almost guarantee you that everything you think you know about it is wrong. Completely wrong. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that nearly everything you've ever been told about The Big V is utterly and blatantly false. It's quite sad, really, those myths that tend to take on a life of their own after years of being recounted and recounted. But that's just what they are...myths. And, boys, if I'm sure of anything, it's that myths, like rules, are meant to be broken. So let's crack open this virgin myth nonsense, shall we, boys? I give you the Top 3 Myths About Virgins...
You think your virgin radar is spot-on
You think you've got the perfect description of a virgin in your head, don't you? After all, she (or he) is obviously easy to spot. So, who exactly is she, boys? The girl with the big glasses who you see on the train every morning and who has yet to look up from her book? Your prude of a co-worker? I'm sorry to disappoint, boys, but sometimes, virgin-spotting isn't like bird watching where you whip out your binoculars and can easily spot them from hundreds of feet away. It's just not that easy. And contrary to popular belief, we don't wear name tags, either.
We're choosing to be virgins for religious reasons
Of course, religion and virginity go hand-in-hand for some people, and I fully respect that. But, that doesn't apply to everyone. It certainly doesn't apply to me. In fact, religion never even factored into my choice. The lesson here, boys: Don't assume you know the reason someone's a virgin.
Women, after a certain age, are ashamed of being a virgin and need help
A woman in her early '30s wrote to Glamour over the summer, wondering if she was too old to be a virgin. I often wonder why that's something women would be ashamed of. Society tells us that if you haven't, umm, taken to the bedroom by a certain age, then there's something wrong with you. But not all women (and especially not this woman) feed into that, boys. Not every woman hide her head in shame at the mere uttering of the word virgin. Some women (especially this woman) are surprisingly comfortable and secure in who they are.
I know you probably think virgins are some crazy creatures, but I assure you that we aren't a species you should live in fear of. We're actually a lot like you, except for, well, the whole between-the-sheets shenanigans. In fact, you probably won't even be able to pick us out of a crowd.
So what do you think of virgins, boys? Are you intimidated? Confused? Don't care? I'd love to hear your thoughts... xoxo
[Photos via Le Love]