Monday, February 20, 2012

Love Lounge: What does the blogosphere mean to you?

Last week, I had the opportunity to guest blog on the Girlie Blog Seattle, where I wrote about the power of blogging. And it got me thinking, friends: The blogosphere is one awesome force. So, I'd love to share my thoughts -- and hear from you, too!
As a writer and journalist, words have always been my passion. In fact, it's hard to remember a time when I wasn't writing, whether it be for my college's newspaper or for a magazine article after I graduated. I was, am and will always be a writer -- plain and simple. So, it only seemed natural when I found myself starting a blog 3 years ago. All writers should have blogs, I thought. At the very least, it will keep me writing and help me stay focused since freelancers don't have typical 9-to-5 jobs and it's easy to get distracted sometimes.

When I started blogging, I knew I wanted to write about love and my physical disability. But what I didn't know? How much I'd grow over the next 3 years and how much my blog would grow with me and help shape the person I am today. Because truthfully, I had virtually no idea where it would all take me or the lessons I would learn along the way. Here are my Top 3 (Unexpected) Blogging Lessons of the last 3 years...

Blogging gives you a sense of community
Ask any blogger and they'll tell you that the sense of community in the blogging world is unlike anything that you could ever imagine. I've gotten to know people I never would have had the opportunity to meet. It's such a supportive community, and everyone genuinely cares about each other. We've laughed, cried and even shared our dreams with each other.

Blogging gives you insight into yourself
Not only does it give you the chance to get to know other bloggers, but blogging gives you a glimpse inside yourself. For me, blogging has forced me to write truthfully and honestly -- sometimes about painful things like my father's suicide and my struggles with depression last year -- in a very candid way that I'm not sure I'd be able to do in real life. Blogging was just the outlet I needed to help me get through a very painful time. And, I was glad that readers could identify with what I was writing about; it's good to know I may have helped someone else going through the same thing.

Blogging helps relieve stress
For some people, chocolate is their go-to when they're stressed and overwhelmed. For me, it's blogging. Any time I need to relax and unwind, all I have to do is start writing a blog post. My favorites have always been my Letters To My Future Husband since I'm a hopeless romantic.
What about you, friends? What has surprised you the most about blogging? How has it changed you for the better? I'd love to hear from you! xoxo

[Bottom photo via We Heart It]

16 Comments:

hello, Friday said...

To me blogging is a part of my commitment, and it allows me to express and communicate visually. I love hearing from my readers and the interaction takes a huge part. xoxo
http://www.hellohellofriday.com/

nicole said...

Thank you for this! I, too, enjoy the sense of community, and I love feeling inspired by bloggers like you! xo.

meesch said...

It has definitely inspired a passion in me that I thought was lost with my childhood. Because of my blog, I started baking and cooking REAL food, I started taking REAL photos, I started doing things that never interested me that much, because I saw what other people were capable of. I'm definitely passionate about so much more now that I see all there is out there in the world!

-meesch
http://www.aperfectkindofday.com

Rachael said...

Blogging totally helps my day time boredom when my guy is at work. I've found so many new projects to do, or places to try and see through reading blogs when i'm home alone. It makes me rethink things and challenges what I think about things. I love blogging, one of the best things I ever started doing.

Stephanie said...

Blogging allows me to tell stories that our daughter will be able to cherish years from now. : )

Christina Marie said...

It's completely changed my life! Maybe I'm being dramatic, but it has helped me find a new passion in cooking and I'm in the process of starting an entire new chapter in my life with food and exiting retail. Yay for blogging!

Christina

HayleyKiah said...

I agree completely! For me I've been shocked at how EVERYONE has gone through or is going through the same things as me.

marie said...

What has surprised me the most is how open others have taught me to be. I have been inspired by so many wonderful blogs and how open the writer is. How raw and honest, even in troubled times. I in turn have put it all out there and it is so freeing.

Girlie Blogger said...

Thanks again for the guest post. You are an excellent writer.

To me, blogosphere is my comfort zone, as I was never expressive about my thoughts. But for some reason, I can say just about anything blogging.

Also, surprisingly, I have met the most wonderful people in blogosphere, people who are truly supportive and kind.

Anonymous said...

I think you should also note how thin-skinned you are. Blogging invites comments both good and bad. You readily elevate the ones who praise you and promise that Mr. Melissa Blake is just around the corner. You chastise readers and delete the posts that you don't agree with. Writing about love and why you are in a wheelchair invites rationalizations and scientific analyses that because you are confined to a wheelchair is why you haven't found love. This kind of truth is painful to hear and accept. As a journalist, isn't the truth (albeit uncomfortable) is what you're after?

Roanna said...

Melissa, I agree with everything you've said, particularly regarding blogging giving you an insight into yourself. I also have struggled with depression and since I returned to blogging after a pause last summer, I feel like being open and honest about these feelings and fears as part of the other things I write about has been better therapy than the three years of prozac and psychotherapy (not that these things are necessarily unhelpful for other people, obviously). I want to be open, but I limit myself to the one big thing I can't bring myself to write clearly about: the huge problems in my family between my much older half-siblings and the rest of us. I spent my entire adolescence with a virtual gag in my mouth for this situation, and although I'm still unable to say to their faces how much they've hurt me, I still can't bring myself to write about it on the internet...

To others it may seem like complaining talking about those subjects (and others), but when it's your little space on the internet, it's yours to use as you please.

Melissa Blake said...

Anon -- there is a definite difference between disagreeing with someone and attacking them as a person by slinging insults and put-downs. My blog isn't -- and never will be -- a forum for attacking or bullying people, not just myself. It's sad that you think this is OK.

Melissa Blake said...

That's awesome, meesch!! I'm so glad others have found such a passion in blogging. What would we do without it?

lol said...

Blogging allows me to tell stories that our daughter will be able to cherish years from now. : )

ElsaD said...

Hi ladies! Yet again, my dear Melissa, you hit the spot! I just got started with my blog a month ago. I feel that this personal project is redefining my life! Not to mention the amazing support that I found in other bloggers, such as yourself. It's inspiring and I learn a lot from my fellow bloggers! BTW, yesterday I found out that I became the winner of a fabolous giveway of a pair of earrings courtesy of the gals from Style She Wrote...Much love! XOXO

http://cafesocietyxxi.blogspot.com/

Rebecca said...

Blogging definitely offers a sense of community. I have wrestled with whether it is worth doing, based on readership etc, but when it comes down to it, I do it for me and if it means something to one person, it is worth doing.