Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
So when I came across these six mistakes newlyweds make, I immediately thought, "OK, this is great. All newlyweds should avoid these mistakes at all costs." After all, if a couple makes too many mistakes in the early days of their marriage, then everything is doomed, right? You just can't go back after those sorts of mistakes, can you?
It also got me thinking about my own parents, whose anniversary was just last week. They didn't follow all those marriage rules and were, hands-down the most in-love couple I've ever known. Need proof, Sweetpea? Well, here are three mistakes they made -- things that they didn't do "by the book -- but had a happy marriage anyway...
Never go to bed angry
I'm not quite sure how this rule ever got started in the first place. Although I never remember my parents fighting about huge things, we always used to joke that all the huge fighting was transferred to squabbles over little things, like what to keep the thermostat set on and how long it's safe to eat yogurt after the sell-by date. And yes, sometimes they did go to bed angry over these minor tiffs, and that was OK. It didn't mean their entire marriage was crumbling around them. It didn't mean they were headed to divorce court. It just meant that they were human. They'd invariably wake up the next morning having moved past said squabble.
Spend all your time together
Were we inseparable when we first got married, Sweetpea? I can picture myself feeling a bit guilty if we're not, but is this something we should really be feeling guilty about? Not being with each other 24/7 doesn't mean we don't love each other. Maybe it just means we're so secure and comfortable in our relationship that we know being apart doesn't mean we love each other any less. And if I get to harping on this issue, Sweetpea, just remind me of this letter, alright?
Make all money decisions together
To me, making every single money decision together just seems downright impractical and a bit archaic (the same is true for letting you handle all the finances, just so you know...). True, we should make all major decision together -- like buying a house or that huge indoor pool I'll be lobbying for -- but I'm pretty sure we'll each be capable of making responsible financial decisions without the other one being present.
cheating! And pressuring me! And taking Peter Pan a bit too literally!), but maybe making smaller mistakes will make us even more happy in the long-run. Doesn't that make sense, Sweetpea? I look forward to seeing what mistakes we end up making. Until we meet... xoxo
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