After almost four years of blogging, one of my favorite columns has become Letters To My Future Husband. I love how it's evolved into this perfect way to share my story, both looking at my past and thinking about the future with Mr. Melissa Blake. Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol) or ask me on Facebook or Twitter, friends! Today's question is from a reader last week, who asked...
Could you ever feel fulfilled and truly happy if there is no Mr. Blake to grow old with? Have you ever considered that you might be simply a spectator in the game of love and never get the chance to know what it feels like to love someone and have them love you back?
This is a great question, and one that I've thought about before. In fact, I think most people have thought about this question at one time or another in their lives. It's sort of that inevitable looming question hanging over your head, sometimes more powerful in its potency than others. The term spinster has such a negative connotation in our society and brings to mind images of elderly women in rambling old houses with 10 cats. They're the sort of women that the neighborhood kids create legends around and other adults feel sorry for, as in, "Can you believe she never married? How sad a life must that be?"
I've never really liked that term myself. What's so bad about being a life-long singleton? Sure, it's human nature to want to make that sort of once-in-a-lifetime romantic connection, but honestly? I could find happiness even if it wasn't in the arms of Mr. Melissa Blake.
And, of course, it's important to remember that love isn't just reserved for the romantic kind. I've experienced so much love in my life so far and am so thankful that I've had the chance to love and be loved in return. That is the greatest gift of all, isn't it? It's the kind that isn't conditional. It's the kind that isn't superficial. It's the kind that is at once honest and unflinching. And, at the end of the day, it's the kind that fills your whole soul. So, yes, Mr. Melissa Blake may never come along, but does that mean love hasn't? I just need to look around to find that love has found me. xoxo
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