A few weeks ago, I wrote about coming to terms with my disability for xoJane. I'm so excited to be writing for them again this week, friends. The topic? Virginity.
Virgin. Virginity. The V-card.
Just those words alone are somewhat taboo in our society, aren't they? The kind of words that are meant to be uttered in hushed tones, if you're even bold enough to say them in the first place. But if you think about it, virginity -- at least the discussion of it -- is a pretty hard thing to escape. But I've always been old-fashioned when it comes to love, which has also made me old-fashioned about sex and the first time. My failure to do the deed, some may say, spells out a future of lonely nights and unsatisying relationships. That, and several cats on my lap.
But thanks to new research, I've got happiness on my side. Research from the University of Texas found that those who wait to have sex until their 20s are more likely to enjoy a happy, satisfying relationship later in life than those who have sex in their teens.
"Individuals who first navigate intimate relationships in young adulthood, after they have accrued cognitive and emotional maturity, may learn more effective relationship skills than individuals who first learn scripts for intimate relationships while they are still teenagers," says lead researcher Dr. Paige Harden.
How old were you when you lost your virginity, friends? Was it how you imagined it would be? Looking back, do you think you were too young? If you're still a virgin, is that a conscious decision that you've made? I'd love to hear your story! xoxo
P.S. More virginity talk, including myths, taboos and misconceptions.
[Via Glamour; photos via We Heart It]