I've talked before about my love-hate relationship with Valentine's Day -- how my inner romantic bleeds (not literally, of course...) for the day of love and sweeping declarations of said love, but my inner cynic comes stomping along and wants nothing more than to pop in some classic Alanis Morissette in an attempt to drown out all the sappy lovebirds.
But, really, this is no way to live. I hate it, actually. I hate feeling so torn and being pulled in what feels like a million different directions, even if it's actually just two directions. It's exhausting. And frankly, it's completely unnecessary; I mean, it is 2013 and all.
So I've vowed to at least try to find a comfortable middle ground this year. With that in mind, friends, and as a tribute to all us lovely people flying solo on Valentine's Day, I offer you my top 3 reasons being a singleton on love's biggest day of the year is a good thing...
You can do whatever you want
Think about this one for a minute. There's no pressure to ask the other person what they want
to do and then have to feign interest in something you hate or just find incredibly boring. Instead, you can plan a special day just for you. Maybe you want to spend it exploring a museum. Maybe you want to take a leisurely bike ride around the city. Or maybe you just want to watch your favorite romantic comedy and rewind all your favorite parts. After all, the entire day is yours. Enjoy it.
You can use the day to learn more about yourself
One of the great things about being single is having plenty of opportunities to get to know yourself. I know I've said this before, but I firmly believe that you can't love someone until you get to know yourself and fully love yourself. That may take time. But, it's something that most definitely can't be rushed. Make a promise with yourself to stay single until you know who you are -- I guarantee the ride will be pretty exciting.
You can live it up with your friends
Just yesterday, for example, my friend Claire and I spent the afternoon together...just hanging out. We didn't have anything grand planned, but it was great to just kick back, relax and catch up with each other. Everyone should have more days like this in their life.
So, friends, what's your relationship status on this Valentine's Day? Single? Married? If you're single, what do you think is the greatest thing about being unattached? And, what are your plans for Valentine's Day? xoxo
[Photos via Le Love]