Wednesday, July 03, 2013
Love Lounge: Is it ever OK to Google potential dates?
Well, modern daters, meet your new oracle: Google.
This idea of using Google as a not-so-secret weapon is nothing new. It swept the nation years ago, much like fire must have spread among cave people when that little novelty was discovered. In fact, I've ever written about it -- Google, here, not fire. After all, it's so easy to unlock a person's life with just a few clicks of a mouse. Yesterday, xoJane posed the "to-Google-or-not-to-Google" question on Twitter.
"Google is the new background check," I tweeted back. And I was serious.
Googling is like double-dipping at a party. Everyone does it, whether they admit to it or not. It’s not obsessive. It’s just human nature to want to know every piece of information about a person that you can possibly get your hands on.
Consider the Googleability Factor -- and yes, I coined that original term all by myself. It measures a guy’s (or girl's...) popularity on Google. Now, this popularity can be good or bad, but what’s more important is why there is so much digital dirt on this dude. For example, you’ll probably be relieved to find that he has a (legal) job (always a plus; bonus points if he’s been recently promoted or received some other sort of recognition for his outstanding performance), a photo album devoted to his family on Facebook or pictures in a newspaper from the weekend he ran for charity.
Some say Google-stalking (I prefer the term pre-screening) squelches any possibility for the excitement of discovering the many things one usually discovers about the other person on a first date: The fact that you both love Shakespeare revival festivals, the fact that you both get cravings for peanut butter and chocolate ice cream every time you go to the movies or the fact that you both loathe the sight of a dirty kitchen.
You still have those roller coaster, explosive “me too” moments. The only difference is that you’ll likely know they’re coming and won't have to hold on tight to said roller coaster and brace yourself for that big dive.
[Photos via We Heart It]