TO: Men all over the planet
RE: Them's fightin' words...
DATE: January 13th, 2014
when I guest posted for The Militant Baker a couple weeks ago? I was reading through the nice comments recently -- well, most of the nice comments, anyway -- when I came to two comments that flashed like neon signs. Actually, more like neon signs that hit me on the head and nearly knocked me over. The first...
You lose sympathy for her when you realize she isn't interested in dating disabled men on wheelchairs. She's talking about her "struggles" with dating fit, regular-sized, able bodied men.
Hmm, interesting. It seems I can deduce two things from your comment, whoever you are. One, you must read my blog, so thank you. And two, you must read my blog, but not very closely. You see, if you read my blog on a regular basis (and who wouldn't want to...?), you'd know that I've addressed the whole dating disabled men issue a looong time ago. It just feels sort of like old news now. Really, it just feels like you're grasping at straws here, and that's most definitely not very attractive. At all. But, in the interest of full disclosure, and just so there's never anymore confusion, of course I would date a man in a wheelchair. Part of me is even sad that I have to come right out and be so blunt about a question like that. After all, it's 2014...you'd think we'd have come farther than that.
But it was the second comment that made me roll my eyes and let out a huge sigh like Judge Judy when the defendant just has no idea how all that stolen merchandise got in his car. This comment is one heck of a dozy, boys, so prepare yourself...
Melissa cannot accept the fact that men are not attracted to her. Unfair as it may be, the wheelchair DOES matter. Her disfigurement DOES matter. It doesn't matter how smart, witty, or sarcastic she is. She might have better luck concentrating on men who are disabled and disfigured like her.
Again, it's 2014. Come on. I can't help but feel like disfigured is such a derogatory term here. And thank goodness I'm not as pessimistic as this commenter. I have a hard time believing that all men would recoil in terror at the sight of me. Do you know how many men there are on this planet? A ton.
So, the lesson here, boys? Don't believe everything you read about me. Chances are, it's not true. Love is a lot more thrilling and complicated than what you see on the surface. Unless it's a comment from one of the people above. Then it probably is just empty and shallow. But I believe in you and trust that you'll know the difference between the two... xoxo
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