Wednesday, September 09, 2015

My Response to Nicole Arbour's Fat-Shaming Video

Dear Nicole Arbour:
I'm about to do something that some people might not agree with. There are those who have held themselves back and refrained from commenting on your recent YouTube firestorm. They don't want to put you on blast and give you even more attention than you deserve. They believe doing so would give you exactly what you've wanted all along.

Well, I have ZERO qualms about putting you on blast. None whatsoever.

I have this habit of surfing YouTube late at night. It's a good way to unwind at the end of the day. I randomly came across your recent video over the weekend (we both know which one I'm talking about here), and well, let's just say I'm sorry I did. I couldn't even watch it for two minutes before I quickly closed my browser window in sheer disgust. Anger doesn't even begin to describe the sort of rage I was feeling.


Honestly, I don't know if I should feel sorry for you, but something tells me that you knew exactly what you were doing by posting such a vile, blatantly horrific video. How pathetic is it to reduce people to numbers on a scale? And for what? The shock value? Oooh, like we haven't seen that shtick before. Maybe you get some sort of sadistic joy out of shaming people you don't even know. Maybe you thrive on that sort of negativity. Who knows?
But know this: Words have meaning. Words have power. I don't care if you were trying to be funny. You weren't. Plain and simple. Here are some powerful words for you: Your video was nothing short of mean, malicious and extremely offensive. You can try to hide it under the guise of satire, try to tie it all up in one pretty bow and pretend that you're making some sort of revolutionary social statement, but you're not. The only statement you're making is showing the entire world just how completely and utterly insensitive you are. Your lack of tact in how you handled the situation and its aftermath speaks volumes about your level of ignorance too.

Because what you're doing? It's bullying. You're a bully and you shame people in the worst possible way -- by judging them. Shaming isn't comedy. And it's never funny.

What about the girl in junior high who watches your videos and looks up to you? You know, the girl who already has that voice in her head -- the one who's constantly telling her she needs to lose weight, strive to be stick thin, dress a certain way, look a certain way, talk a certain way, act a certain way. She doesn't need another voice vying for her attention. After all, the last thing she needs is yet another distraction.
Whether you like it or not, you have influence, and frankly, you've wasted yours. There's already enough negativity in this world. I would much rather use my time -- and influence -- to spread joy and positivity. However little influence I have, I want to use it for good. It's all very sad that you obviously don't want to do the same.

What can I say? I guess I don't have that much self-restraint... UN-xoxo

[Photos via We Heart It]


  1. You go girl!!! I actually didn't know the video until now and just came back from watching it. In the end she said something about paying attention to your health and that she loves her viewers no matter how they look, but nobody gets this far and the way she says it is plain and simple mean.

  2. I haven't watched the video, and I probably won't. I hate body shamers. Everyone deserves to feel beautiful. You should check out Courtney Mina's blog ( She's one of my fave body positive bloggers. :)


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