tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post2558990396780381165..comments2023-11-16T03:37:52.470-06:00Comments on So about what I said...: MEMO TO MEN: On (more) disability mythsMelissa Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comBlogger22125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-16272999833003298312012-10-25T15:18:37.706-05:002012-10-25T15:18:37.706-05:00Not at disabilities are the same. Some people aren...Not at disabilities are the same. Some people aren't able to be independent, depending on the disability. It's wonderful that you are able to be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-68293375922838689562012-10-24T06:56:36.944-05:002012-10-24T06:56:36.944-05:00I really like your blog and I think you're doi...I really like your blog and I think you're doing a great job!! xoxoLove me if ya darehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09622231067889906398noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-11127383887082708772012-10-23T19:57:46.263-05:002012-10-23T19:57:46.263-05:00Well said, Melissa- all of it - the post as well a...Well said, Melissa- all of it - the post as well as your replies to ignorant comments. Thank you for keeping things up beat. :)mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14457900572853874272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-39738823137887047052012-10-23T16:43:33.532-05:002012-10-23T16:43:33.532-05:00Anons -- as I've said before, I've seen so...Anons -- as I've said before, I've seen some condescending and down-right mean-spirited questions in the comments here, and those are questions I refuse to answer. Not because I can't -- believe me, I could -- but because that's not what my blog is about. I want to keep this place positive and uplifting. <br /><br />As for the other questions, they keep coming up over and over, even though I have answered them time and time again. I don't know if people are looking for a different answer or what, but I don't see the need in answering them for the millionth time. That's why I'm inclined to delete them. <br /><br />But rest assured of a few things (and I hope this answers some of your questions)...<br /><br />1. I receive some disability in addition to my income through blogging. <br /><br />2. Yes, I live WITH my mom -- not IN her house. I contribute to the property taxes and utilities, we split grocery money.<br /><br />3. My mom doesn't feed me -- she helped prepare my food, only because our kitchen isn't handicapped accessible. Yes, she doesn't help bathe and dress me, but I would need someone's help with this even if I lived on my own. It's a little hard to wash your feet when your spine is fused... :)<br /><br />As for hiding behind my disability, that's about the last thing I can do. It's sort of obvious....it's not something you can miss. Does this help answer some of your questions? Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-85064074470155516212012-10-23T16:30:58.447-05:002012-10-23T16:30:58.447-05:00"your own kind." What the hell is that?!..."your own kind." What the hell is that?!? Melissa's "KIND" is human, just like every other person on this planet. She can date anyone she wants if they both have feelings for each other. What a ridiculous thing to say.<br /><br />AprilAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-53591560321679307382012-10-23T14:28:21.375-05:002012-10-23T14:28:21.375-05:00Melissa, I saw some of the comments. What in heave...Melissa, I saw some of the comments. What in heaven's name are you so afraid of?? They weren't offensive. The commentor asked an honest question. How does one make enough money to support themselves by blogging? I'm sure you would be doing a huge favor to others by explaining how they, too, could leave their jobs and survive by blogging. Or is it that you can do this BECAUSE you live in your mom's house, are on her insurance, and she feeds, bathes and dresses you, pays the property taxes and utilities. This is not meant to be offensive, but because these are tough and honest questions, I doubt that you can attempt to answer. You can't hide behind your disability forever! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-5573092510611271092012-10-23T11:46:12.795-05:002012-10-23T11:46:12.795-05:00Melissa,
Asking questions, even if they aren'...Melissa,<br /><br />Asking questions, even if they aren't with a bunch of exclamation points and hearts next to them, doesn't make them negative. Isn't that what you do yourself, throughout the blog? Question things, stereotypes, reasons for doing this or that? As I mentioned in the comment you deleted of mine, you are free to answer what you want, but deleting them is unnecessary.<br /><br />LaurenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-66041714778827344142012-10-23T11:24:27.907-05:002012-10-23T11:24:27.907-05:00Anon -- I'm pretty sure people saw the comment...Anon -- I'm pretty sure people saw the comments. One of my goals with this blog has always been to keep it an upbeat, positive place. Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-4752191468954335182012-10-23T11:19:52.697-05:002012-10-23T11:19:52.697-05:00Then why did you delete those comments? Right now ...Then why did you delete those comments? Right now no one knows what you're referring to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-79844241326653578292012-10-23T11:16:14.906-05:002012-10-23T11:16:14.906-05:00To clear things up: I've answered a lot of the...To clear things up: I've answered a lot of these questions before -- several times -- so when I see them continually being asked, I feel like it doesn't add anything to the conversation.<br /><br />I've always wanted this blog to provide a real, honest and genuine glimpse into my life. Does this help? xoxoMelissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-23319427606902904302012-10-23T10:34:09.142-05:002012-10-23T10:34:09.142-05:00Hi Melissa, visiting your blog for the first time,...Hi Melissa, visiting your blog for the first time, thanks for the comment on mine :) I think you are just wonderful. You are rockin You, being You and embracing everything about You, which makes you so very special and unique in this world. Thanks for being an inspiration.<br /><br />xo<br />Maria<br />aminuteinthelifeofmaria.blogspot.comMaria Maria Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16801889081775639080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-62810256183778426282012-10-23T05:01:06.619-05:002012-10-23T05:01:06.619-05:00Great post, Melissa. Thank you so much for telling...Great post, Melissa. Thank you so much for telling it like it is and dispelling these 'myths' that continue to lurk in the minds of small-minded people.<br /><br />you go girl!!<br /><br />http://unpublishedworksofme.blogspot.co.uk/ Unpublished Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03152652424684567118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-45910108160175219742012-10-23T00:53:25.395-05:002012-10-23T00:53:25.395-05:00Your line about being a person with a disability, ...Your line about being a person with a disability, not a disabled person was spot on. So well said. Beautifully written as always Melissa! :)Alexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12153464120291028496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-49958146801596089862012-10-22T22:14:03.523-05:002012-10-22T22:14:03.523-05:00wonderful post. kudos! :) you are an inspiration t...wonderful post. kudos! :) you are an inspiration to me.Jessi LaRue (Jessi Haish)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10413594376389233027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-45360013531572631512012-10-22T20:16:30.414-05:002012-10-22T20:16:30.414-05:00Yay!!!!!!! :) Beautiful, Melissa!!!!! You are awes...Yay!!!!!!! :) Beautiful, Melissa!!!!! You are awesome, and I know that you will find true love and will be very happy with him. Muah! Elsa de Diegohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00948492336495259205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-433843346682569642012-10-22T19:50:56.614-05:002012-10-22T19:50:56.614-05:00Beautifully stated Melissa! You are an inspiratio...Beautifully stated Melissa! You are an inspiration my dear and your guy will be lucky to be with you, lovely lady!<br /><br />xoxo,<br /><a href="http://www.chicncheapliving.com" rel="nofollow">Chic 'n Cheap Living</a>little luxury listhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17630812969476483227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-50488110045454972762012-10-22T19:37:32.277-05:002012-10-22T19:37:32.277-05:00I read that article before and i enjoyed it ,and n...I read that article before and i enjoyed it ,and now i read it again and enjoyed it even more<br />i really admire your courage :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16908588894665804208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-39794573003583765922012-10-22T18:25:55.597-05:002012-10-22T18:25:55.597-05:00Definitely well put, Melissa. You are very inspira...Definitely well put, Melissa. You are very inspirational my dear.<br />xoxoLady Greyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08934497862144836328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-73538524642310082992012-10-22T18:01:35.667-05:002012-10-22T18:01:35.667-05:00Beautiful Melissa! The man who gets to be with yo...Beautiful Melissa! The man who gets to be with you will be one lucky guy :) xoxoTHE ALTERNATIVE WIFEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07593507545118567343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-17908948256440776672012-10-22T17:26:22.264-05:002012-10-22T17:26:22.264-05:00great post melissa! well said.great post melissa! well said.Alyciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15555801450880316598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-31014992231628304232012-10-22T16:58:57.480-05:002012-10-22T16:58:57.480-05:00Perfectly said. Perfectly said. Teach.Workout.Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06093196435468090916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-89957848478533990602012-10-22T16:47:23.603-05:002012-10-22T16:47:23.603-05:00Well said, Melissa! I hope you find the man who w...Well said, Melissa! I hope you find the man who will love you unconditionally.Sweet Posy Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07915541210527642552noreply@blogger.com