tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post4547169716322095808..comments2023-11-16T03:37:52.470-06:00Comments on So about what I said...: Love Lounge: What's your place in your family?Melissa Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-56240514989040511492012-10-18T16:22:14.089-05:002012-10-18T16:22:14.089-05:00I'm an only child and the character traits for...I'm an only child and the character traits for the only child kinda fit me. But I have three cousins who are sisters and I don't think this fits any of them, especially not the oldest.Tommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06941094048277571172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-17422501176527286742012-10-18T13:16:40.609-05:002012-10-18T13:16:40.609-05:00Oldest siblings are pretty awesome, aren't the...Oldest siblings are pretty awesome, aren't they, Elsa? Though I'm probably a bit biased haha!Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-18303546831018010292012-10-18T11:11:22.181-05:002012-10-18T11:11:22.181-05:00Darling, this is so interesting. I never heard abo...Darling, this is so interesting. I never heard about this theory. I am the oldest sister, and I certainly relate to some of this characteristics. It is definitely something to take into consideration...XOXOElsa de Diegohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00948492336495259205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-44907247834614032042012-10-17T18:03:04.186-05:002012-10-17T18:03:04.186-05:00Ha, silver, not sure I'd want to marry another...Ha, silver, not sure I'd want to marry another first-born like myself...too bossy!Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-18245402845376969502012-10-17T18:02:12.968-05:002012-10-17T18:02:12.968-05:00Hi Anon -- my sister and I have talked a lot about...Hi Anon -- my sister and I have talked a lot about this in the past, actually. Where all my surgeries are considered, yes, there was a bit of a role reversal like you say, but when we were at home, away from everything medical, we were just two normal sister. I was very much her protector growing up and she was always on the shy side. <br /><br />It's funny, too, because now that we're adults, our roles have pretty much stayed the same. I'm the typical older, bossy sister and she's the laid-back one. :)Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-22826126138593636982012-10-17T17:59:19.254-05:002012-10-17T17:59:19.254-05:00My husband and I are both the oldest out of four, ...My husband and I are both the oldest out of four, we read that list and had to laugh because the personalities fit our siblings (and ourselves) to a T. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-15902529712566675162012-10-17T15:00:25.282-05:002012-10-17T15:00:25.282-05:00It's funny–I'm the oldest, but most people...It's funny–I'm the oldest, but most people I met think I'm an only. Ouch? A Crimson Kisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00474778213617208638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-27148181519698077552012-10-17T08:13:22.980-05:002012-10-17T08:13:22.980-05:00Just out of curiosity, in your own experience, do ...Just out of curiosity, in your own experience, do you think you inhabited the typical 'oldest child' role in your home? I'm just wondering, since I've heard that in most families, when one child has a major disability and/or serious health problems, those roles can be subverted. That the younger siblings are expected to grow up a lot faster than they usually are (sometimes too fast), and can be ignored or overlooked a lot by their parents, who are preoccupied with the child who needs their attention the most. It sounds like you have had a lot of struggles getting your mom to see you as an adult- struggles that your sister hasn't had as much, despite some problems of her own (like the time your mom suggested that Janelle date someone you were interested in without even considering that you might want to yourself). Maybe your early birth-order roles shifted a bit during your 20-something surgeries, when you were busy being taken care of and trying to survive, and the rest of your family (including your sister) were busy worrying and trying to put on a brave face for your benefit and taking care of you. Would be curious to know what your sister has to say about this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-61735109093975508742012-10-16T22:53:38.622-05:002012-10-16T22:53:38.622-05:00These descriptions are vague enough that they coul...These descriptions are vague enough that they could be almost anyone. Personally, I'm about equally described by every single one of them. This reads less as a 'science' and more like astrology, numerology, palmistry, tarot, etc. <br /><br />Not that I don't think that birth order has no shaping whatsoever on people's personalities; clearly it effects both sibling and child-parent relationships, which in turn can shape people's personalities. But the man is overreaching tremendously with his assertions, and his conclusions are not science. Bowerbirdnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-41620410649898831002012-10-16T22:19:30.381-05:002012-10-16T22:19:30.381-05:00Not true of me or most of my siblings.Not true of me or most of my siblings.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-71533672337156466902012-10-16T18:54:16.712-05:002012-10-16T18:54:16.712-05:00Very interesting post Melissa. I'm the 2nd (mi...Very interesting post Melissa. I'm the 2nd (middle child) and I think I fit in to what is said. I sometimes wished I was the youngest because I was ganged up on by the older and the younger one. I think the traits have followed me. What's really interesting is how you relate to your spouse according to birth order. I need to look more into this! ThanksJen Beaudet https://www.blogger.com/profile/13316569869048301111noreply@blogger.com