tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post6526962762306881124..comments2023-11-16T03:37:52.470-06:00Comments on So about what I said...: Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #158.Melissa Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-60012505003494100132012-06-21T16:22:40.645-05:002012-06-21T16:22:40.645-05:00My husband and I were married in November. I didn&...My husband and I were married in November. I didn't want to get married in the summer for a number of reasons. We got engaged on a cliche day (Valentine's Day). but it was for a good reason-- my grandmother and I were very close and she was having health issues. My husband wanted her to know that I was going to be ok, otherwise he would have waited a few more weeks to the anniversary of our first date. We actually married 9 months to the day later (Nov 14). This yr it will be anniversary # 14. While we do not spend all of our time together we do spend time together and we miss each other if there has been too much time a apart. (I have been in the hospital a few times and then I have also gone on trips as my father's companion because he didn't want to travel alone--and I am the only one of my siblings who could go at the time).<br />The first thing that I have to say about my husband and I is that we are good friends.Suburban prephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18395691728192716148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-6498005410082713262012-06-18T10:31:09.438-05:002012-06-18T10:31:09.438-05:00Oh yeah, the going to bed angry thing is definitel...Oh yeah, the going to bed angry thing is definitely going to happen. I'm not married, but in a long term relationship. And I agree it always starts with something ridiculous! One of the few benefits of being in a long distance relationship for me has been I put a LOT of stuff aside because time is too precious to waste arguing. Like "OK he's turning the radio on too loud for the billionth time but...it's not a big deal. We only have one day together. Let it go..."<br /><br />I asked him once what one of his favorite things about me was and he said that he knows even if we have a fight, it's going to be okay. I was touched. That's something hard for me to accept, that he can be angry at me but still love me to death - even though I know I feel that way toward him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-17667275418014653392012-06-17T11:15:16.849-05:002012-06-17T11:15:16.849-05:00exactly, posy!!exactly, posy!!Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-7486100935336982862012-06-17T11:14:44.938-05:002012-06-17T11:14:44.938-05:00My parents were sort of the same way, rachael...my...My parents were sort of the same way, rachael...my mom would get so much more upset than my dad. But when my dad got going, he could hold a grudge himself.Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-46605691415938558172012-06-14T13:26:31.373-05:002012-06-14T13:26:31.373-05:00No relationship is perfect, is it? Whether it'...No relationship is perfect, is it? Whether it's parent-child, siblings, or a marriage. If everyone just keeps trying, that's all one can hope for.Sweet Posy Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07915541210527642552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-71597210253001553582012-06-14T07:55:49.667-05:002012-06-14T07:55:49.667-05:00My parents use to always go to bed on an argument ...My parents use to always go to bed on an argument - not for my fathers choosing however. It was my mam, she can hold and argument and a grudge out for days. In turn that's made me really scared of arguments [she was amazing at going silent treatment to anyone]. With regards to me and my guy although we have our little fall outs they never last that long.Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17128754833604987577noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-88941957121335532692012-06-14T04:00:08.530-05:002012-06-14T04:00:08.530-05:00I think the best advice is probably just to do wha...I think the best advice is probably just to do what feels right for you. If you go to bed angry then fine, just dont let it drag on for days and days if its something stupid. I often go to bed a bit annoyed and wake up realising i was only upset because I was tired!Charlottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03803310423261777004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-40518678774323035862012-06-13T20:17:05.573-05:002012-06-13T20:17:05.573-05:00No, Anon -- I just meant that some newlyweds want ...No, Anon -- I just meant that some newlyweds want to spend all their time together in the early parts of their marriage.Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-56031153854280074702012-06-13T20:13:24.599-05:002012-06-13T20:13:24.599-05:00Did you actually read something that recommends sp...Did you actually read something that recommends spending all of your time together?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-8124549368851446722012-06-13T18:36:04.694-05:002012-06-13T18:36:04.694-05:00I loved reading this. John used to get scared when...I loved reading this. John used to get scared when we'd have an argument that it was some sort of terrible omen, and finally he realized that neither one of us went anywhere after it! If you're not making mistakes, you're probably not trying hard enough!A Crimson Kisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00474778213617208638noreply@blogger.com