tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post8958811176193248157..comments2023-11-16T03:37:52.470-06:00Comments on So about what I said...: Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #151.Melissa Blakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-73798086057984366512012-02-25T14:48:31.849-06:002012-02-25T14:48:31.849-06:00This is very beautifully written & so candid.....This is very beautifully written & so candid...it's refreshing. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences I really enjoyed reading this. ♥♥♥SSamantha/TheAdornedArticleBloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17408632196856678896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-58203517544011257672012-02-24T14:15:14.694-06:002012-02-24T14:15:14.694-06:00Your letters are always filled with such love, hea...Your letters are always filled with such love, heart, hope and inspiration, love this! <3 Reading about all you have been through in life just reinforces how strong you are, and that you too have the same worries that so many of us do. Thank you, once again, for your honesty and bravery! :)Lieslhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12587832632977708348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-39975377932390938192012-02-24T11:22:53.909-06:002012-02-24T11:22:53.909-06:00Debby, a book is something I've thought about!...Debby, a book is something I've thought about! :) Thanks!<br /><br />And regarding being prepared for future, yes, my mother does have a will, so we've discussed that.Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-46034102449961228902012-02-24T11:17:40.304-06:002012-02-24T11:17:40.304-06:00First Anon -- interesting point. Although, I'm...First Anon -- interesting point. Although, I'm not sure it's so much getting control over PTSD and depression as it is learning to integrate it into your life. And we all have emotional baggage, don't we? No one who has lived can escape that.Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-47094606102908874872012-02-24T11:15:12.841-06:002012-02-24T11:15:12.841-06:00Jillian -- sending you lots of hugs through the co...Jillian -- sending you lots of hugs through the computer!Melissa Blakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975477573895818097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-32676198590335554842012-02-24T09:26:11.792-06:002012-02-24T09:26:11.792-06:00wow what a touching way to explain what you've...wow what a touching way to explain what you've been through! i've been trying to catch up on these love letters and you are truly an amazing writer!<br /><a href="http://indramaticfashion.com" rel="nofollow">in dramatic fashion </a>Lisa Griffinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04833874587061441389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-71962855937329250412012-02-24T08:40:35.222-06:002012-02-24T08:40:35.222-06:00I think that everyone needs to prepare for the wor...I think that everyone needs to prepare for the worst, and hope for the best - that is truly the only rational way to deal with bad experiences that may, or may not come our way. :/Cafe Fashionistahttp://www.cafefashionista.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-58681170492612197952012-02-24T08:37:55.112-06:002012-02-24T08:37:55.112-06:00I sympathize with all you have gone through. You s...I sympathize with all you have gone through. You stated that one of your biggest fears is of being alone. This is not meant to be "mean spirited", but let's face facts. Statistically speaking, there's a very good chance that you mom might pass away while you are still living. You need to prepare for that reality....not necessarily the emotional aspect, as grieving is certainly a personal journey for everyone, but taking the time to planning how you will live your life if and when you do find yourself "alone." Maybe you and your mom and sister should sit down and have a very serious discussion....does your mom have a will.....do your rent or own the home you live in....if you own, whose name is on the mortgage....your mom can include you so that the property wouldn't go to probate should something happen to her.....do you understand and know how to pay the household bills, the property taxes, the insurance....would you be able to keep up with the home maintenance on your own....would you have to sell the property....does your mom have life insurance.....would you need personal help and would your sister be willing to care for you for a lifetime....can you cook....do you alone earn enough money to pay all the bills...are you saving/investing money for an uncertain financial future.....do you need to advance your education so that your earning power could increase should you need it. These subjects are not easy to discuss, but knowledge is power, as they say. If you are prepared to tackle life on your own, it's alot less scary. Unfortunately, life is so much more than riding carousels, twirling in a meadow and curling up on the couch with a cup of cocoa while Mom handles everything. Learning to be as independant as possible can alleviate alot of your fears. It's the adult and responsible thing to do. I wish you and your family the best!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-88570527751372801902012-02-24T07:59:19.963-06:002012-02-24T07:59:19.963-06:00Oh, I have chills up my spine. I can't even be...Oh, I have chills up my spine. I can't even begin to fathom the unimaginable pain you have suffered. Suicide in a family is devastating. The affects it leaves on the loved ones last for an entirety. I saw it firsthand in my brother-in-laws family. It trickled down to my nieces and had a rippling affect on their lives. I am glad you are in counseling. There is great help in talking through your emotions. You would not be normal if you did not have post traumatic syndrome after such a earth shattering event. Clearly you loved your Dad. He sounded like a good man and a good father. I understand your fear of losing your Mom and sister. Thanks for sharing so candidly and openly. You seriously need to write a book. You have a gift for the written word. Lots of love to you. xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-38127257372573101552012-02-24T04:29:23.181-06:002012-02-24T04:29:23.181-06:00Hi Melissa! Thank you very much for your comment -...Hi Melissa! Thank you very much for your comment - I'm really glad you commented, since I actually found your blog a few weeks ago and really loved it. And then I somehow lost the link to it, couldn't remember the name of it and then spent ages looking through other blogs trying to find out how I came to your page in the first place! <br /><br />I had nearly given up, so I'm so glad you found me so that I could find your blog again!<br /><br />This is such an honest and lovely post, this is one of the reasons why I like your blog. I lost my father too, when I was little and I've been dealing with it badly recently. Your idea of it being like a carosel is spot on for me. <br /><br />This post really helped me out with how I feel and put a new perspective on it, so thank you :) <br /><br /><a href="http://inspirenordic.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow">inspire nordic</a>Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01754872390240056636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-25792020019304480782012-02-23T22:37:19.522-06:002012-02-23T22:37:19.522-06:00Wow! It took several reads to understand your poin...Wow! It took several reads to understand your point. I guess that what PTSD does. It is unpredictable and hard to follow. And understand. Please don't think I'm putting you down for saying this, but I think you should get control over your PTSD and depression before you start dating. It is a challenge for a guy to look past your disability and appearance. You already know that. You have never been on a date yet. To add your emotional baggage would be too much for anyone to handle. I looking forward to your next post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-8634900712500470932012-02-23T21:47:45.866-06:002012-02-23T21:47:45.866-06:00Your post is wonderfully written and I completely ...Your post is wonderfully written and I completely relate to what you are saying. I have had PTSD ever since my mothers death and it is a daily struggle to deal with. I found a lot of great information about PTSD and ways to cope with it at http://onlineceucredit.com/edu/social-work-ceus-nd . I hope this is helpful for others who have PTSD.Rebecca Martinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-64969659339703281092012-02-23T19:47:52.065-06:002012-02-23T19:47:52.065-06:00I've never commented before.
I have never bee...I've never commented before.<br /><br />I have never been diagnosed PTSD, but they have slapped every other label on me. <br /> My father died unexpectedly when I was 10. My mother when I was 17. I almost lost my life at 20. Now nearly 25, most days are great, but I've been stuck on what I call repeat, all month. <br />I needed to read this today. To know as messed up and damaged and I can convince myself I am when I'm down here, I'm not alone. <br />Thank youJillianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04020355375661025085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-3712464362925786652012-02-23T17:41:32.750-06:002012-02-23T17:41:32.750-06:00it's crazy how times passes. it's been ove...it's crazy how times passes. it's been over ten years since my grandpa who was one of favorite people in the whole world passed away and it feels like just yesterday. i see little things that remind me of him and it reminds me that he's always right next to me, still watching over me. the same is true for your father :)Aprilnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8773709208108297978.post-61199054715282625342012-02-23T16:52:42.104-06:002012-02-23T16:52:42.104-06:00I enjoy reading your letters to future husband. xo...I enjoy reading your letters to future husband. xoxo<br />http://www.hellohellofriday.com/Kathy https://www.blogger.com/profile/14658315311257872809noreply@blogger.com