So about what I said...

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2012-02-01T08:53:00.000-06:00

"Take me for what I am...who I was meant to be. And if you give a damn...take me baby or leave me."

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Question of the Week: Question #12

2012-01-31T14:00:00.000-06:00

Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol), friends! Today's question comes to us from Tiffany, who asks...

Where do you see yourself in 20 years?
I've always loved the movie Back To The Future. It got me thinking about both the past and the future. And then after thinking about how far I've come yesterday, this is the perfect time to think about the future, isn't it? Truthfully, I've always been a bit scared of the future. You all know by now that change and I aren't exactly the best of friends. Honestly, I sort of fear change, probably because I only think of it in terms of bad change. I've been so conditioned to brace myself for all the bad things that change will eventually bring that I've all but closed myself off to the possibility of good change. So it's been a struggle sometimes to see the silver lining in change, to see that good things -- even wonderful things -- can come from change. It's crazy to think that in 20 years, I'll be 50; maybe that will be the new 30? It will be the year 2032, which just sounds completely crazy to me. I see myself still writing, of course. I'd love to live in the Big Apple, maybe writing for a magazine (will magazines still exist?) or working on a book.
That's the practical side of me. The impractical dreamer in me? She wants to have her own talk show. How fun would that be? I can see myself musing about anything and everything!

What about you, friends? Where do you see yourself in 2032? Have you even thought about it? Do you worry about the future? Do you look forward to it? xoxo

P.S. Here are 52 reasons why Back To The Future rocks!

[Bottom photo via We Heart It]

Found: The perfect cure for Monday morning blues

2012-01-31T11:40:00.000-06:00

Wouldn't these pennants be perfect for curing your Monday morning blues? You could hang them in your office and wave them every morning before you sat down to work. A little encouragement to start off your week on the right foot!

Tell me, friends: What's your go-to cure for a case of the Mondays? What gets you pumped up for the week? xoxo

Paris versus New York

2012-01-31T08:00:00.002-06:00

Parisian graphic designer Vahram Muratyan's online series comparing his two favorite cities, Paris and New York, has long made the blog rounds. Well today, he releases Paris versus New York: A Tally of Two Cities, featuring 105 of his creative illustrations, including never-before-seen ones! I love Muratyan's knack for making everyone's beloved cities come alive on the page in such clever ways, with illustrations covering pop culture, food, even iconic landmarks. Here are a few of my favorites...
He describes his work as "a friendly visual match between two cities told by a lover of Paris wandering through New York. Details, clichés, contradictions: This way, please."

How awesome is that? Anyone feel like taking a little trip? Have you been to the City of Lights or the Big Apple, friends? Which one do you prefer, or is it impossible to choose? xoxo

Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #149.

2012-01-30T14:30:00.000-06:00

Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
I was looking at the calendar a few days ago and realized something: It's almost February 2012. I had to just stop for a moment as I felt a little lump form in my throat. I tried to cough, but it wouldn't budge. It intended to stay there until I acknowledged it. So I suppose I had no choice, I thought, as my mind drifted slowly back to almost one year ago -- to a few days before Valentine's Day in 2011.

It's the last time I was in the hospital for my depression.

There. I've said it. I sometimes wonder if I talk about it a lot with you, Sweetpea. Do I? I only say that because from where I am now, everything about that time in my life is still so fresh, so vivid in my mind. It's like that one movie scene (usually the gruesome one...) that you just can't seem to get out of your head no matter how hard you try. And that's not to say it's a bad thing. It's just, well, the way things are at the moment.
I know it probably sounds crazy, but I can't help but feel as if my struggles with depression define my life more than all my other surgeries combined. Not that it defines every aspect of my life, but I've certainly never marked anniversaries for my surgeries like I'm doing with my depression this year. So that has to mean something, doesn't it, Sweetpea? I've never been so excited and yet so terrified to reach a milestone -- so excited because I can finally look back and see just how far I've come, and terrified because I sometimes feel as though I'm always looking over one shoulder, making sure I don't let the depression somehow creep back into my life. It's all a fine balance sometimes, and I'll be the first to admit that I'm still trying to figure it all out.

I often wonder, too, where I'll be a year from now. Well, you already know the answer to that, but I don't, so just humor me here. A lot can happen in just one year, can't it? My entire life could change -- another thing that sounds both exciting and terrifying -- but I do know one thing: I want to still feel the way I feel right now. Because I feel strong. I feel like I've come a long way in the last year.
I won't pretend I'm all cured. I won't pretend I don't still have some days that are a heck of a lot easier than others. And I won't even pretend that I have all the answers. I don't. But my mom said something very interesting a few days ago. She said that the day I started my classic singing around the house was the day she knew I was getting better. I think she may be on to something, Sweetpea, don't you? Until we meet... xoxo

[Photos via Le Love

Sponsor Spotlight: Sweet Musings Paperie

2012-01-30T12:45:00.000-06:00

Today, I've got an awesome interview with you, friends. Michelle of Sweet Musings Paperie, one of So About What I Said's newest sponsors, gives us the story behind her creativity and what likes best about her job. Read on...

Keep in touch...
Official Web site: Sweet Musings Paperie
Check out on Facebook
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So tell me a bit about Sweet Musings Paperie.
Sweet Musings Paperie was started in August 2011 so it’s a relatively new shop. I’m slowly building up steam, enjoying meeting people, both clients and other sellers, and creating products that are whimsical, fashion focused and just simply make me smile and I hope, make my clients and followers smile too! It’s a little classic and a little contemporary.

What inspired you to start the shop?
This is sort of a long story, but I’ll try to make it short. I studied illustration at Rhode Island School of Design, and after I graduated, I started working as a Marketing Coordinator. Well, my full-time job and life sort of got in the way of my illustrations, and the more time went by, the more I missed it. Over the course of the five years since I graduated, I was working like crazy, I planned a wedding and got married, I bought a house and was trying to make it a home; sadly, my art was slipping farther away. And then I went to Paris on my honeymoon, and I came back with inspiration literally bursting out of my head and onto paper. I was creating illustration after illustration and developed the characters, Coco and Louie. From these two characters, I began creating products featuring them and other illustrations that made me smile. And with each of these products, I started Sweet Musings Paperie.
What's your best piece of advice for people looking for great online shopping deals?
I have a few things I do when looking for deals. I always wait until I have a coupon or there is a sale at stores. And I also try to look in the sale section first. I’m a big online shopper, and I love shopping sites like Gilt, Idelli and Beyond The Rack and similar sites that have designer sales. Other favorite stores and sites are ModCloth, Piperlime, ASOS and Target. I’ll spend more on classic pieces that I know I will want and have for years and look for the deals or shop lower-end for trendy pieces. I always shop around and compare.

In this recession economy, what are some ways people can still look chic for less?
I think you just have to be on the lookout. So many stores have deals all the time to try to bring customers in. And, as I said above, I love to shop stores like Target, ModCloth and ASOS for the really trendy pieces and then mix them with higher-end classics. It helps me feel chic without having to spend a lot.
What is your favorite item in your shop and why?
The custom illustration listing is definitely my favorite. Is that cheating since it’s always different and the project depends on the client?! It’s my favorite because I’ve met so many incredible people through the listing. I always end up feeling like I’ve made a new friend and got to know them and what makes them happy or what they care about. Each project has been so unique and so much fun for all kinds of reasons. I never know what someone will be requesting, and I know it will always be out-of-the-box, original and so personal for my client. I’ve worked on things like illustrations of pets for tote bags, wedding thank-you notes, shower invitations, blog headers and pictures of loved ones. So even if it is cheating, it’s by far my favorite listing.

P.S. A new Letter To My Future Husband is coming up soon! :)

Ferris Bueller Superbowl commercial

2012-01-30T10:45:00.002-06:00

Breaking news: Matthew Broderick is back as Ferris Bueller! Have you guys seen the new Honda commercial that's set to debut during Sunday's Superbowl?
It's packed with more than 24 references to the classic '80s movie. Genius! How many can you spot, friends? xoxo

P.S. The Ferris Bueller house!

Man Candy Monday.

2012-01-30T08:00:00.000-06:00

Good morning, friends! Can you believe it's the last week of January? I'm not sure where the time went, but it's a very exciting night tonight. Tonight marks the 100th episode of one of my favorite shows, so I thought it would be the perfect time to pay homage to my favorite actor on the show. Although I've featured his character before, this guy is a star in his own right. He's got an intriguing accent. He seems to be quite the prankster. And he seems like the sort of guy you'd want to talk to for hours...

ED WESTWICK!!!!!!!!!!

"I'm all for being in love and whenever I like someone, I end up pretty much completely smitten."

Have a cozy weekend

2012-01-27T14:15:00.000-06:00

Happy Friday, friends! What are your plans for the weekend? I'm heading to the movies to see We Need To Talk About Kevin. Have you seen it? It looks pretty interesting, and I've always been a fan of psychological thrillers. While I'm enjoying my buttery popcorn (the best part about going to the movies, really), I hope you all have a great weekend, and here are my favorite finds from the wonderful Web...

Romance in New York City!

What music video would you like to be in?

Famous eyebrows.

Genius: Tea bag cookies!

Isn't this Colorado wedding beautiful?

Valentine's Day balloons.

Meet Ms. Brown, the newest M&M with a personality.

Photographers posing with their famous photos.

I want this dress.

The dangers of Pinterest...

In defense of messy desks (remember my desk?).

I miss Buffy The Vampire Slayer.

Six things not to say to a childhood sweetheart.

A cape made of spider silk. Would you dare?

Genius: Interactive paintings.

Awesome nostalgic gizmos!

Neat.

A delicious Tumblr all about food!
[Photos via Wit + Delight]

Fashion Friday: Pocket squares

2012-01-27T12:01:00.000-06:00

Let's turn the tables and talk about men's fashion today, shall we, friends? Remember when I mentioned how a wedding ring on a man is incredibly sexy? Well, the same goes for pocket squares.

They're so small, yet I'm pretty certain that you can tell a lot about a man by his pocket square of choice. Plus, they add a dash of dapper charm and an old-world gentlemen flair, don't you think, friends? I love the romantic feel too! xoxo

So, where do you fall in the Great Pocket Square Debate? Is it a do or a don't?

P.S. I'm also a huge fan of pocket protectors. They're beyond sexy, but more about that in another post. :)

[Top photo by The Sartorialist, via A Lovely Being]

Pencil bites test

2012-01-27T09:42:00.000-06:00

This made me smile this morning. Which one are you, friends? xoxo

[Via I Love Charts]

Would you rather: Live in the bustling city or in the quiet country?

2012-01-26T13:35:00.000-06:00

Confession: Growing up, I had the best of both world. All my surgeries and hospital stays turned me into the utmost, uber-chic city gal. My senses took it all in. The tall buildings that stretched across the horizon. The classic Chicago smell – a mixture of pollution and whiffs of nearby Lake Michigan. The sound of a car honk in the distance or the music of a street performer. And the hoards of people rushing -- always rushing -- to their jobs, iPhones firmly in hand. I loved the hustle and bustle the big, expansive city had to offer.
But I also loved the calming quiet retreat awaiting me at home -- in a small town amidst the cornfields and far removed from the city. Summer picnics. A rocking chair on the front porch. A glass of tall lemonade perched on the wooden table. The sounds of the country and the ears of corn blowing in the wind sweeping over the field. Seeing for miles in the distance.

What about you, friends? Are you a city mouse or a country mouse? What do you like about the city? The country? Do you think it's possible for someone to be both? xoxo

[First two photos by Virginia Gálvez, bottom graphic via The Color]

Grandmother Tips: Part two

2012-01-26T11:30:00.000-06:00

Chacho Puebla is back! He recently released part two of his hilariously brilliant (and true!) Grandmother Tips series. This time around, Puebla's great aunt is still front and center with those netiquette signs for navigating the perils of social networks, but there's a fun twist: readers are invited to share their own tips on the Grandmother Tips Facebook page. If your tip is chosen, you can even have your grandmother in the photo. How awesome is that?

[Via 22 Words]

Etsy Love: Terrarium postcards

2012-01-26T08:15:00.000-06:00

Wouldn't these postcards be a neat way to give friends a little reminder of spring during the cold winter months?

P.S. Pick-up line postcards and postcard cups! :)

Love Lounge: Perils of pressure

2012-01-25T14:44:00.000-06:00

Let's talk pressure today, friends. You know, the kind that bears down on your shoulders and tries to get the best of you? It's an evil little monster, isn't it? And after some comments in yesterday's MEMO TO MEN, I got to thinking about all the pressure that comes with Cupid's arrow -- or lack of Cupid's arrow. The vicious cycle starts when we're teenagers. We see our friends having all these new experiences -- seeking out with boys, stealing secret kisses -- and we start to panic. We can't be the last of our friends to have these experiences, we think. So we sometimes just jump in head-without-heart to simply get it over with. Another item checked off our romantic to-do list. Done. Easy as that.

But somewhere down the line, we realize just what a mistake we've made. Maybe things don't feel the way they should. We don't feel those butterflies. We don't feel that giddy, school-girl glow coming over us. We feel, well, nothing. And it's the worst none-feeling feeling in the whole world. And that's when, sometimes, we realize that we let all that pressure get the better of us.
Well, me? I don't want to just do it. First kiss. First date. I don't want to just get them over with. Because that's not what any of them mean to me. They all mean something to me -- every first kiss, every first date, even every first fight -- and I don't want to be left feeling like I let someone else's pressure lead my heart into making the wrong decision. I'm starting to believe that things will naturally happen when they're supposed to, so I'm not going to rush things along. If I do, I'll miss the beauty of the scenery along the way. And something tells me I don't want to miss out on even one second of that beauty.

Do you ever feel that sort of pressure, friends? Are there certain things you've done just to get them over with? Was it worth it? Have your views changed as you've gotten older? xoxo

[Photos via Le Love]

Dream Home: Space bedroom

2012-01-25T11:28:00.000-06:00

What an out-of-this-world bedroom -- literally! Ben and Tatjana, the husband-and-wife team from the Netherlands-based design studio Studio Aandacht, used the universe as inspiration when designing sons Max and Raf's room. Every night, you could pretend you were sleeping under a blanket of stars, or that your bed was a spaceship floating through the galaxy! Is it weird that I'm secretly thinking I want this room as an adult? :)

[Via Bloesem Kids]

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2012-01-25T09:00:00.000-06:00

"These boots were made for walkin' and that's just what they'll do..." --Nancy Sinatra

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Sunglasses Shop Giveaway!

2012-01-24T14:30:00.001-06:00

Today's giveaway is from Jess of Sunglasses Shop, the one-stop-shop for all sorts of cool and chic shades. You can browse by brand name, color, occasion or hairstyle ; there are even awesome accessories to complete the look!

Jess is offering one lucky reader a £50 (around $75) gift certificate from the Le Specs collection. Which pair is your favorite, friends? I'm loving the Distant Lovers pair -- it would go perfect with my red hair -- and the Sweet Disposition pair is retro cool, don't you think?

For your chance to win, simply visit the Le Specs collection, and leave a comment below with your favorite pair of shades, along with your email address. Also, you can follow Sunglasses Shop on Twitter and LIKE them on Facebook for extra entries. A winner will be chosen at random tomorrow afternoon. Happy hunting! xoxo

Update: Congrats to winner Paislea. Thanks so much! :)

Question of the Week: Question #11

2012-01-24T12:54:00.002-06:00

Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol), friends! Today's question comes to us from Jamie, who asks...

What's on your DVR?

Confession: I love TV. No, I love TV. I always have. It started with Sesame Street, back in the days when I was learning the alphabet and The Count was teaching all about numbers. Then I went through my Disney Channel and Nickelodeon phase. Now, friends, I'm referring to the classic heyday of these channels in the '90s. I watched Kids' Incorporated and MMC religiously after school (Ryan Gosling, anyone?).

And when we got a DVR a few years ago, I felt like I'd hit the jackpot in Vegas. I now had 100 hours at my disposal to record anything and everything my little pop-culture-loving heart desired. Here's a little round-up of some of the shows I'm loving these days (and one show that got cancelled too soon...)...
Gossip Girl and Pretty Little Liars are the perfect guilty pleasures. Plus, I can live vicariously through all that Upper East Side drama. But more on my love of Chuck Bass later. :)
Mad Men and Pan Am are fantastic period dramas. I've always loved shows that span years and years and incorporate the life and culture of the time period into the storylines.
How I Met Your Mother and The Big Bang Theory are just all around feel-good shows. How I Met Your Mother actually inspired Letters To My Future Husband, and who doesn't love Sheldon Cooper?

And....American Dreams is one of my all-time favorite shows that got cancelled too early! The music. The pop culture. The fashion. Everything. Perfect!

So, friends, it's your turn to share. What's primed and ready-to-watch on your DVR right now? What are your favorite new shows? Any old ones you never get tired of (The Brady Bunch is one of mine!)? xoxo

P.S. Two more shows I love.

P.P.S. I also have a fun How I Met Your Mother theme week coming up soon! :)

[Top graphics by Someecards]

Lyric posters

2012-01-24T10:00:00.000-06:00

Remember Nicole Martinez and her clever nerd prints? Well, it turns out she's also got a musical side. Wouldn't these lyric posters brighten up any room?

MEMO TO MEN: Girlfriend vs. girl friend

2012-01-23T14:00:00.000-06:00

MEMORANDUM
TO: Men all over the planet
FROM: Melissa
RE: Stuck in the middle with you
DATE: January 23, 2012

Do you remember when I shared my non-date-I-thought-was-a-date with Cute Guy Friend, boys? Well, I've realized something else: Being stuck in that grey, murky middle with you -- being thisclose to you but still being at a metaphorical distance -- is just plain frustrating.

Girlfriend vs. girl friend.

It looks like a minute difference, but eventually, that gap between girl and friend becomes wider and wider, and it gets harder to see straight. It's an unspoken yearning more powerful in its silence. The girlfriend get roses. The
girl friend helps pick out roses. The girlfriend gets surprise texts at midnight. The girl friend gets texts at midnight asking for girlfriend advice. The girlfriend blushes because she's in love and doesn't have to hide it. The girl friend blushes because she's in love and is trying desperately to hide it.

See, being friends with a guy is sort of like having the perfect boyfriend. He listens, gives you the inside scoop on the male mind, is both charming and flirtatious and is always there for you. The only problem: He’s, well, not technically your boyfriend. He’s your boy friend. And when your boy friend has a girlfriend (note: not a girl friend; that’s your role, remember?) and you become the girl friend in the bizarre love-but-it's-not-really-love triangle? It’s hard not to feel just a little pang of heartbreak.
But you're his girl friend. You. Must. Remember. That. You must always remember your place and never even think of stepping your toes outside those friend zone boundary lines. If you do, everything will come crashing down in one big mess -- and it won't be of the romantic-comedy variety.

Do you see the frustration here, boys? I've been the girl friend a few times in my life. It's not fun. It's not pretty. What's also not pretty? These two little myths we girl friends have faced...

We love meeting your girlfriend, and of course she’s welcome to join us at the movies (substitute dinner, lunch, etc., or whatever fits your situation)
We can take the “How We Met” story once, maybe twice, but that’s the limit. We feign a smile and a nod over salad and champagne as we watch you two hold hands, but inside we’re mentally writing our grocery list, thinking about that work proposal or counting the number of freckles on her forehead. Has she had Botox or work done? You’re so in love. We get it.

We never compare ourselves to your lady love. Why would we be so insecure and shallow?
The minute I heard about Cute Guy Friend's girlfriend, I did the only logical thing. I furiously Googled her and looked for her on Facebook. I just had to see this vision of perfection. What color was her hair? Was her skin creamier than mine? I ultimately came up empty-handed. But here's the thing: We do it all in secret -- this whole covert spying operation. If you ever ask us, we remark, “Of course not. What am I? Jealous? Pfft. Someone sure thinks highly of himself, doesn’t he?”
The real truth: Boys, we know you're in love with your lady love. We get it. We know you're so perfect for each other. It's more romantic and sugary sweet than a Disney movie. I'm sure we'll eventually realize that being the girl friend is better than not having you in our lives at all. Until then, though, let's hope we don't end up in a sugar coma from all those perfect love stories. xoxo

[Top photo via Opposable Sums, other photos via Le Love]

Triple chocolate brownies

2012-01-23T12:30:00.000-06:00

These are making my mouth water! The best part? They're actually good for you. They include black beans, which reduces the fat and boosts up the protein. :)

P.S. A new MEMO TO MEN is coming up this afternoon!

[Via Joy The Baker]

Font maps

2012-01-23T10:40:00.001-06:00

London-based designer and typographer Richard Small is the genius behind Font Maps -- a geographically accurate map made from, you guessed it, fonts! Individually arranged letters are used to create the shape of cities, counties, states or countries. The borders are even represented by the arrangement of letters. How cool is that, friends? xoxo

Man Candy Monday.

2012-01-23T07:30:00.000-06:00

Good Monday morning, friends! I hope your week is off to a good start. As I start my second week of the new semester, I thought it would be the perfect time to showcase another newcomer to one of my favorite shows. He's moving and shaking. He's capturing hearts. And his energy is just so darn infectious...

CHORD OVERSTREET!!!!!!!!!!

"My real name is Chord Overstreet. I actually got my name because my dad is in the music business as a songwriter. I was the third one in my family born, and there are three notes in a chord, so that's how they came up with my name."

P.S. See his other costars shine.

P.P.S. Doesn't he remind you of a young Mick Jagger?

Have a fun weekend

2012-01-20T14:05:00.000-06:00

Happy Friday, friends! What are your plans for the weekend? We're supposed to get some snow, so I'm going to use it as the perfect excuse to curl up, drink hot chocolate (my favorite!) and catch up on my DVR. I hope you all have a toasty weekend, and here are my favorite finds from the wonderful Web...

Genius: Sun bread.

I want to take a card-making class!

Dream Vacation: Whimsical retreats.

A blog all about animals.

Who was your favorite Golden Globe lady?

Aren't these bookshelves awesome?

Profile of a new mom.

How does your garden grow?

Yes, I'd like a woodland theme for my bedroom!

Fashion alert: Pastels.

Delicious breakfast blog.

Happy Birthday, Charlie!

I want to bike (or ride...) across the Golden Gate Bridge.

Tapestried creatures.

Gidsy, a new Web site, helps you find and plan fun things to do, whether you're on vacation or close to home.

Do you write thank-you notes?

Inspired by this woman.

Yay or nay: Neon.

R.I.P., Etta James.

What kind of foodie are you?

[Photo via That Kind of Woman

Fashion Friday: Disney wedding dresses

2012-01-20T13:10:00.002-06:00

If my inner geek was smiling this morning, my inner child is dancing and twirling over Alfred Angelo's debut collection of wedding gowns. The dresses, inspired by Disney's classic princesses, make me want to bust out Disney movies and break into song. Here are a few I've been eyeing...

Jasmine, for following her heart.

Ariel, for dreaming big and being fearless and fierce in going after what she wants.

Snow White, for not letting anything get in her way -- not even an evil stepmother.

Belle, for looking beyond the surface and loving someone for who they are.

What about you, friends? Which dress is your favorite? Who's your favorite Disney pricess? xoxo

Swoon alert: Obama singing Al Green

2012-01-20T11:45:00.001-06:00

This video has been making its way around the Web today, but I just couldn't help posting it. Warning: Prepare to be dazzled... xoxo

P.S. Fun fact: Obama was Man Candy almost exactly three years ago. Coincidence? I think not... :)

[Via Buzzfeed]

Talk nerdy to me

2012-01-20T09:30:00.001-06:00

Ahhh, this is perfect for Valentine's Day: Boston-based illustrator Nicole Martinez brings together the head and the heart with her series of nerdy dirty prints, available here and in her etsy shop. Aren't they genius? My inner geek is smiling this morning! xoxo

P.S. Remember Nerd Boyfriend, geeky buttons and these grammar t-shirts?

[Via Honestly WTF]

Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #148.

2012-01-19T14:15:00.001-06:00

Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
Well, leave it to Glee and a little ditty by Rihanna to get me thinking about you on a freezing winter's night in January 2012. What's that, Sweetpea? I've never told you about my love-bordering-on-obsession fondness for the show? I blame it all on the fact that I was in my school's choir in junior high and my freshman year of high school, but that's a topic for another time and another letter.

Tonight, though, I can't help but feel like a bit of my life was played out on the small screen. This week's Glee saw two main characters, Will and Emma, getting engaged, but not before facing some real insecurities and serious questions about Emma's illness. There's no sugar coating it; Things won't be easy. Things are going to seem overwhelming sometimes. Things are going to seem hopeless sometimes. I won't lie and say I didn't want to reach through the television and punch Will square in the face when he said, "I know it’s not your fault that you have this disease, but some days it just seems so hopeless. How will you handle spit-up on your special Wednesday sweater?” No one would have faulted Emma from walking away at the prospects of all that. But she didn't. In fact, she did quite the opposite, using words like incomplete person unabashedly. She made no excuses. She made no apologies. She made it clear that she wasn't the least bit sorry for who she was.
It was inspiring, to say the least, Sweetpea. Why? Because last summer, I definitely wouldn't have had the courage to react that way. Maybe I would have just been too scared, afraid that everything would come crumbling down. Not today -- not right now. So, yeah, we could probably think of thousands of reasons why this will never work and why it's a waste of time for us to even try. And maybe we'll even start convincing ourselves that these reasons are actually true. But I have to believe that even in those hopeless of places, you can still find love. Just because the odds are stacked against you doesn't mean you should go down without a fight. Because in the end, love is worth fighting for. Quirks and all.

I'll jump of the edge of glory if you'll jump with me, Sweetpea. What do you say? Until we meet... xoxo

[Top photo via Buddy TV, bottom photo via Le Love]

Peek Inside: My office desk

2012-01-19T11:42:00.001-06:00

Let's continue with the office theme, shall we, friends? It may have taken me most of the day yesterday, but my desk is finally all clean and organized. It's amazing what a sparkly, shining, looks-brand-spanking-new desk will do for your mood -- and productivity level. I'm not ashamed to admit that it even made me a bit giddy too.

So, 'fess up, friends: What does your desk at work look like? What's on it right now? Do you like your desk bare, or do you have like to display little things that make you smile, like photos of loved ones? Do you work best when your desk is clean, or are you a fan of organized chaos? xoxo

P.S. Recognize those pens? Thanks, Jessi!

Wedding bouquets

2012-01-19T09:40:00.002-06:00

Besides the frigidly cold temperatures and blustering snowstorms, one of my least favorite things about the winter months is the lack of color. Everything is bare -- the trees, the ground -- and I just want take a spray can full of eye-popping colors and go to town a la those classic paint-by-number books. Until then, these wedding bouquets put a little cheer in my winter step this morning; they're so beautiful and romantic. Wouldn't they be perfect for a winter wedding, friends? xoxo

[Via Belle The Magazine]

Love Lounge: Let's talk first dates!

2012-01-18T14:03:00.000-06:00

Let's just get this out of the way right now: I've never been on a date., let alone a first date. We've established that before, but I thought it best to keep you informed of any changes -- or lack thereof.

I'm learning to be OK with it too -- this whole no-table-for-two-experience. I mean, it's not like it comes up very often in everyday conversation; it's not the kind of tidbit you slip into the office conversation, saying, "Hey, I've never been on a date," between a deep discussion of last night's episode of the Bachelor and gossip about the new intern. It's just not not the sort of thing that comes up.
I never used to feel this way, though. Maybe I was even ashamed of it, as if it was something I had to work so desperately hard to hide. No one could ever find out my secret. I even thought that everything would be perfect if I could just go on that first date -- then, I'd know those feelings I'd heard people talk about. You know, those awkward butterflies. The stolen glances. The accidental arm brush.

But you see, that's the beauty of the whole thing, I think. Not having been on a first date yet gives me a sort of clean slate. It can be anything I want it to be. And when I think about it like that, I know those butterflies, glances and arm brushes will happen for me. Eventually. When the time is right.
And when you think about it, maybe it's not so much about the date itself than it is about the person you're with. You could be eating atop the Eiffel Tower, but if the person is a rude, conversation hog, the date is just going to be plain awful. But if you're with someone who makes you feel relaxed and wants to get to know you, even if you're stuvk at the movie theater because of a blizzard, chances are that the hours won't seem to tick by so slowly.

So, friends, I'd love to know: What was your first date like? How old were you? What's your idea of a perfect date now? What was the best date you've ever been on? What made it so special? Did you learn anything about yourself from the date? Let's chat! xoxo

P.S. Have you heard of the 3-hour rule? Thoughts? :)

[Top chart via I Love Charts, other photos via Le Love]

Are you a workaholic?

2012-01-18T12:00:00.000-06:00

Today is my first day back at work (hello, syllabus, hand-outs and new students!), so how fitting that I should come across this chart that breaks down the average work hours for men and women around the globe. Are you a workaholic, friends? What do you do? What's your favorite job you've ever had?

[HR Environmental Scan, via Flavorpill; click on the link to see the full chart]

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2012-01-18T09:01:00.000-06:00

"I'm on the edge of glory, and I'm hanging on a moment of truth." --Lady Gaga

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Blog redesign: The official unveiling

2012-01-17T14:20:00.002-06:00

This afternoon, I am so excited to officially unveil my new blog design. For the last month, I've been working with Heather of Viva La Violette. She's been helping me transform my vision for So About What I Said, and I'm in love with the way everything turned out. I was going for a fresh, crisp, clean and modern look...what do you think, friends? Some important things to bring to your attention...

*You can now follow So About What I Said on Facebook.
*You can now see my pretty finds on Pinterest.
*You can always follow me on Twitter.

With the new blog design, I thought it would be the perfect time to look back over the past year...
I surpassed 100 Letters To My Future Husband, and discussed everything from my high-strung nature to that one moment when I realize I am head-over-heels in love with Mr. Melissa Blake.
We chatted and mused over Love Lounge topics, like believing in fate, what we love about being single and the upside of unrequited love.
We schooled those silly boys with each MEMO TO MEN, covering topics like the dangers of a cheating heart, assertive women, the curse of nice guys and a little thing known as R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
Childhood favorites, like board games, stuffed animals, sibling nicknames and television shows.
I used Daily Affirmations -- like my love of the Beatles -- to combat my depression.
We oohed and ahhed over Dream Homes, like Nantucket cottages, glass tree globes, framed butterflies, secret passages and a house with an indoor pool!
Dream Vacations, like San Francisco, the Tunnel of Lights, reading hotels, clifftop towns and airport bars.
We got our shopping on with amazing Etsy finds, like miniature cars, state prints and dogs wearing bowties.

Fashion, like flowers in your hair, glasses, tattoos and sparkly holiday shoes.
Awesome design, like lake logos, wedding invitations, typography, geography magnets, Missed Connections and holiday cards.
We enjoyed food virtually, like pumpkin pie bars, Girl Scout cookies and s'mores in a jar.
We fell in love with all things wedding, like this Swedish wedding, this zipline bride, retro bridal portraits and engagement rings.

I celebrated my 30th birthday in August with a wonderful surprise party (Thanks, Mom...)! And of course, I wrote about my life with a physical disability.

We also enjoyed the seasons with Fall Fashion Trends and the Holiday Gift Guide 2011.

And toward the end of the year, I launched several new series, including Behind The Blog, Fashion Friday, Would You Rather and Peek Inside.

Whew! Looking back, it's been a busy year, hasn't it, friends? I'm so excited about what's ahead in 2012, aren't you? And I'm especially excited to share it with you...my wonderful, amazing, fantastic, strong readers! I've loved getting to know you! xoxo

P.S. I'd love to hear your thoughts on the new blog design, too! :)

Question of the Week: Question #10

2012-01-17T10:56:00.000-06:00

Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol), friends! Today's question comes to us from Mari, who asks...

What article have you written that you are proud of?

Oh, this is definitely an easy one. In 2007, I had a personal essay published in Redbook magazine. It was my first national publication, and I was beyond over-the-moon excited -- I was practically out-of-the-galaxy giddy with excitement. The day it came out, my mom and I walked to the gas station by our house and bought a couple copies of the magazine and fountain drinks. We couldn't wait until we got home, so we sat on the curb outside the gas station, the blistering summer sun beating down on us, and flipped right to my page! xoxo

P.S. I can't believe it's been almost 5 years! :)

Envelope journals

2012-01-17T08:15:00.000-06:00

I love the idea behind these envelope journals from Present and Correct: A yearly planner along with envelopes for each month, so you can record your monthly activities diary-style. How cool would it be at the end of the year to look back at your life in little month-by-month bits? You could collect receipts, ticket stubs, photos. even to-do lists!

Do you still keep a paper planner, friends, or have you gone digital? I'm trying to resist the allure of going digital! xoxo

P.S. Do you keep a journal?

[Via Black*Eiffel]

Dark Side Of The Moon

2012-01-16T14:20:00.000-06:00

I wrote this one last night. I'd had the title in my head for a few days now; I love the imagery that comes with the phrase "dark side of the moon." We all have our own "dark side of the moon," don't we? We all go through dark times in our lives, and behind every dark time is that one person who helped us get to the other side. Who was that person for you, friends? xoxo

This feels like a dream
But every time I open my eyes, you're right here with me
I want to wake up like this for the rest of my life
Have you hold me in your arms
And sing me to sleep with your lullaby

With you I can see the light in the dark side of the moon
It shines so bright like a blanket of stars
Do you, do you feel it in my heart, baby?
Everything's changing
I don't have to be afraid anymore
I can be sure of who I am
Baby, you helped me make it through the dark side of the moon

Now there were times I'd pretend I was OK
But you, you took one look at my face and knew I was lying
You broke through my walls
And showed me I didn't always have to be strong

With you I can see the light in the dark side of the moon
It shines so bright like a blanket of stars
Do you, do you feel it in my heart, baby?
Everything's changing
I don't have to be afraid anymore
I can be sure of who I am
Baby, you helped me make it through the dark side of the moon

The stars are dancing for us tonight
And even if someday I'm not with you, just look up into the sky
And remember how you, you, you helped me make it through the dark side of the moon

With you I can see the light in the dark side of the moon
It shines so bright like a blanket of stars
Do you, do you feel it in my heart, baby?
Everything's changing
I don't have to be afraid anymore
I can be sure of who I am
Baby, you helped me make it through the dark side of the moon

With you I can see the light in the dark side of the moon
It shines so bright like a blanket of stars
Do you, do you feel it in my heart, baby?
Everything's changing
I don't have to be afraid anymore
I can be sure of who I am
Baby, you helped me make it through the dark side of the moon

[Photo via Le Love]

Behind The Blog: My Saving Grace

2012-01-16T13:00:00.000-06:00

Today, friends, we get to know Grace, who reminds me a lot of myself when I was 20. She's a fantastic writer, and, like, me, isn't afraid to admit that she is a bit socially awkward. Check out her story, and as always, I'd love to feature you and your blog, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol)...

Quick facts
Name...Grace Dale Martin
Birthday...May 8th
Where are you from...Illinois
Word that describes me...Loyal
Occupation...Copy Editor
Blog...My Saving Grace
When did you start your blog...September 2011

What inspired you to start a blog?
I have always enjoyed writing, but lately it had been losing some of its sparkle. Why write if no one is ever going to read it? So I joined the school paper, where I met Melissa and Jessi, who are both amazing bloggers themselves. When I started second semester of working on the paper, they started in with the, "You should get a blog!" They finally convinced me to start, and now that I've started, I'm addicted.

What do you love the most about blogging? Does anything about it stress you out?
I love seeing the number of page views go up. It really means a lot to me that someone, anyone, is looking at my blog and the things that I write and the pictures that I post. I also love that not all of my views come from the United States and that it isn't just friends and family looking at my blog. I have people from several different countries looking at my blog. I'm always stressed about what I'm going to write about next. I don't know if I'm quite comfortable yet saying exactly what I think or how I feel. I know that I'm always stressed about trying to make the grammar and punctuation completely error-free. I know that all of this will get easier as time goes on. After all, it has only been a few months.

If you had to describe your blog in one sentence, what would you say
My blog is completely random. I'm still trying to find exactly what it is that I want7 to share.

What has blogging taught you?
It shows me just how much growing I have to do as a writer. When I read finished blog posts, I always find ways that I could have made them better. I never thought that blogging would take so much forethought and effort. I find myself working really hard to come up with the right thing to say.

What advice do you have for new bloggers?
Don't be afraid to start! I was, and now I can't imagine not blogging!

Where do you see yourself and your blog in 5 years?
I hope that I can be more open and honest in my blog about what I think. I think that my blog will help me feel more secure and open with my own opinions, and that it will help me figure out who I am.

What has surprised you the most about blogging?
How much work and thought I've put into it! Now that I have a blog, I constantly think about what I'm going to blog about. Or I'm composing blogs in my head about ideas that I've already had. I keep lists! Blogging is crazy-addicting.

Sponsor Spotlight: Sunglasses Shop

2012-01-16T10:15:00.003-06:00

Friends, I'm happy to introduce one of So About What I Said's new sponsors. I recently interviewed Jess of Sunglasses Shop and got the inside scoop on all things sunglasses. I hope you enjoy! xoxo

Keep in touch...
Official Web site: Sunglasses Shop
Check out on Facebook
Follow on Twitter

So tell me a bit about The Sunglasses Shop
Sunglasses Shop is the home of designer sunglasses. We're global now too. We have over 100 of the world's favorite fashion brands and the best names in performance eye wear. We also have a team dedicated to bringing our customers the latest news, views and trends and celebrity style from around the world. People come for our sunglasses but always end up staying for tea. We believe there is a pair of sunglasses for everyone. And getting the best pair for your lifestyle is the most important thing otherwise whatever you pay is a waste of money.

What is your favorite item in your shop and why?
We have so many products, it's virtually impossible to pick a favorite. It changes every season too. But Chanel and Oliver Peoples have been really popular here for some time - we like the celebrity DNA that comes with OP and Chanel. Oakley are always amazing with their innovation - truly amazing - and of course, there's Ray-Ban Wayfarer.

Man Candy Monday.

2012-01-16T08:45:00.000-06:00

Good morning, friends! How's you Monday going so far? Today's awesome guy returns to the small screen next week in one of my favorite shows. I've featured his co-stars before, but he's quickly becoming my favorite. His eyes are dazzling, and it feels like they could see right through to your soul. His accent is intriguing. And the fact that his character on the show is a doctor just makes me plain weak in the knees (but more about my fondness for doctors later)...

JESSE SPENCER!!!!!!!!!!

"Mum decided that I could sing a bit, so she put me in a choir, which I hated and it was just a nightmare. I was a rebellious sort of choirboy."

Have an adventurous weekend

2012-01-13T14:13:00.000-06:00

Hello, friends, and happy Friday! Did you have a good week? What are your plans for the weekend? We're taking a trip into the suburbs for a lunch at one of our favorite restaurants. The one in our town closed a few years ago, and we've been craving it ever since! Here's to a warm and snugly weekend, and here are my favorite finds from the wonderful Web...

Love this photography series of abandoned theaters.

Awesome places to visit in 2012.

Isn't this breakfast station awesome?

I want these shoes!

Oh, the power of older siblings!

SO excited for the next season of Glee!

Anyone fancy a trip to Portland?

Funny posters.

When was the last time you took your parents' advice?

Awesome thoughts on growing up.

Are you a hipster? (remember this hipster game?).

How amazing is this photo?

A tissue-worthy thank-you-note to moms everywhere!

Potato pizza? Yes, please!

Optical illusion prints.

The Huffington Post just launched a new section all about good news.

Have you heard about Cupcakegate?

Cute alert: 10 best apps for babies!

Dude...the real meaning of 'dude.'

I love this bling, don't you?

[Photo via Bippity Boppity Boo]

Fashion Friday: Essie's spring collection

2012-01-13T11:55:00.001-06:00

Spring is in the air, at least when it comes to Essie's new colors for its spring 2012 collection, which pays tribute to ambitious and independent women. "Fortune favors the bold," says Essie founder Essie Weingarten. "I am so inspired by women who dream big, go with their instincts and always manage to put their best self forward."

How awesome is that? I love how the collection blends bold, eye-popping colors with more feminine and breezy pastel colors. Sigh...makes me want to take an afternoon walk in a grassy field full of spring flowers. What's your favorite color, friends? xoxo

[Graphic made by me]

Are you superstitious?

2012-01-13T09:25:00.000-06:00

Yikes, friends! Today is Friday the 13th. How superstitious are you? Do you scare easily? What's the craziest superstition you've ever heard? Apparently, it's considered bad luck to keep goldfish in the house...who knew?!?!? I'm quite the scaredy-cat -- pun intended! xoxo

P.S. Now I'm going to have this song stuck in my head for the rest of the day! :)

[Top graphic designed by me]

Happy Birthday, Mom!

2012-01-12T13:45:00.000-06:00

Happy birthday to the greatest, most wonderful, most fantastic, out-of-this-world, most caring, most loving mother in the entire universe. Ms. Bear, from the moment we met, I knew you would always be my best friend, love me unconditionally and stand by me when I need you the most.
We've been through some tough times, like father's death, my surgeries and that time we both had casts on at the same time...
...but we've also had some pretty awesome times, filled with laughter, travel and marathon Yahtzee sessions.

I hope you know that today and always, I will forever be your best friend, love you unconditionally and stand by you when you need me the most. Thank you, Best Friend. xoxo

Would You Rather: Have a large wedding or a small, intimate one?

2012-01-12T12:30:00.000-06:00

Friends, it's finally winter here in the Midwest (the snow is whirling outside my window right now!), so let's daydream about weddings today, shall we? I can count on one hand the number of weddings I've been to; I'm sure there are a couple I'm forgetting, but the number of weddings I can remember attending is under five. My oldest cousin got married when I was 16, and since she and her fiance (my cousin-in-law?) both have a large family, it was one of those big affairs, complete with a reception in a sprawling dining room.

A few years later, I attended another cousin's wedding. This one, a quaint affair set against the backdrop of summer in upstate New York, was decidedly smaller, made up close friends and family. And when one of my oldest and dearest friends got married, she and her husband decided to forgo a traditional wedding altogether. Instead, they opted for a short ceremony at the courthouse with a few family members, and then invited friends and family to a backyard reception on a warm July day.

And my parents' wedding? Well, from the stories I've heard and the photos I've seen, their wedding was even smaller still -- it was held at the church my mom attended growing up, and they invited less than 100 people to both the wedding and reception.

So, friends, I'd love to know: Which one do you prefer? Did you have a huge wedding, inviting everyone from your mom to the school nurse from elementary school, or did you keep it small, only inviting very close friends and family? Do you like going to large weddings or more intimate ones? xoxo

P.S. Funny wedding comic!

[Photos via We Heart It]

Dream Home: Huge windows

2012-01-12T09:05:00.000-06:00

I'm adding this to my list of dream writing spots. Something tells me I could get a lot of work done here! Isn't it beautiful, friends? xoxo

P.S. Special post coming up shortly! :)

[Photos by Ian Allen, via Jessica Comingore]

MEMO TO MEN: I'm not that innocent

2012-01-11T14:31:00.001-06:00

TO: Men all over the planet
FROM: Melissa
RE: My wild, wild, wild side
DATE: January 11, 2012
By now, boys, I'm sure you think you know everything there is to know about me. In fact, you probably think you've got me all figured out, and have the perfect profile of me sketched in your head. You think I'm a straight-laced, buttoned-up, hair-in-a-bun, Little Miss Perfect who always does the right thing. I would never think of rocking the boat. No, no. Instead, I opt to sit in the boat prim-and-proper like, holding on tightly to that orange life jacket drapped over my shoulders. And then, I cam across this quote...

"There’s always a wild side to an innocent face." --Unknown

That's when it dawned on me: Oh, yes, boys, I do indeed have a wild side. As surprising as that may seem, I've done things and said things that seemingly fly in the face of that angelic image of me you've created in your head. What? You don't believe I've ever walked the tracks of the dark side? Perhaps these brushes with my bad side will change your mind...
I once stole a purple crayon
OK, so it was in the first grade, but that was my first taste of the evil that lurked within me. I saw it just sitting there (the crayon, not my inner evil) on my teacher's desk, all shiny and new, and honestly? Well, I just had to have it. I was practically calling my name, and who was I to deny its wishes? My parents made me return it the next day -- my subconscious probably showed it to them out of guilt -- but I know now that little crayon was the gateway into a world of badness (is that even a word?) that I never even knew existed,

I wear white after Labor Day
I know! Scandalous, isn't it? And what's even worse is that I'm not the least bit ashamed of it, either. I wear white shirts and white shorts and white socks and white polo shirts and...well, you get the idea. Let's just say I've never been one to give in to convention -- another sign that I'm a rebel.

I gamble at casinos
I think my love of casinos is starting to border on an addiction. I love the sound of the slot machines, which is my drug of choice. The way the coins clink when you put them in. The cranking sound as you pull the lever. The chug-chug-chug sound as the screen flashes. Now, I've never won much money, but for me, that's never really mattered. I'm in it for the thrill. Plain and simple. The high is downright amazing, boys.

I drink...root beer
And lots of it, of course. I can be seen with at least a few a week, and I have no intention of stopping any time soon. Sugar high, be damned!
So are you convinced? Now, I'll be honest here: I'm not proud of some of these moments. Certainly, they won't qualify for a spot in the Best Of... series of my life, but maybe they were something I needed to get out of my system. It's sort of like how everyone's tried coffee at one time or another in their life. And when you try it, you realize you either like it or you don't. There's no in-between. That, boys, is why there are two types of people in this world: coffee drinkers and non-coffee drinkers. I tried coffee. It was far too bitter for my taste. I think I'll stick with root beer. At least for while. Care to share a can, boys...? xoxo

[Photos via We Heart It]

Then & Now: Family photos

2012-01-11T12:15:00.002-06:00

Yesterday, I shared some then-and-now photos from my college newspaper days -- with zero shame, might I add. Well, last week, while my aunt was visiting my grandfather, they emailed us the top photo. That's my grandfather and his three brothers in 1935 (my grandfather is on the upper left), and I love that little smirk on his face. From all the stories I've heard over the years, he and his brothers were quite the rowdy bunch when they lived in Chicago growing up -- smoking at 9-years-old, swimming in Lake Michigan, never doing their homework. My poor great-grandmother!
And speaking of my great-grandmother, here she is in a family shot taken years later, once my grandparents were married and had their first daughter. My great-grandmother is the second from the left in the middle row, and my grandmother, holding my aunt, is the second from the left in the bottom row.

Do you have multi-generational photos like this in your home, friends? xoxo

P.S. More family love, including family portraits, Awkward Family Photos and childhood photos.

Exploded flowers

2012-01-11T10:45:00.000-06:00

These exploded flowers have me mesmerized this morning. Photographer Qi Wei wondered what flowers would look like if they were disassembled. "The act of disassembly lays bare the various shapes and textures of the flowers, and what is interesting to me is how much more expanded some flowers can get when they are disassembled," he says.

Fun fact: The surface area of a rose is larger than the surface area of a sunflower! Who knew? Aren't these photos lovely? What's your favorite flower, friends? xoxo

P.S. His floral paintings are amazing too! :)

[Via PSFK]

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2012-01-11T09:15:00.000-06:00

"One fine day...you're going to want me for your girl." --The Chiffons

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #147.

2012-01-10T15:15:00.000-06:00

Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
I'm sitting here in my psychiatrist's office, and one thought keeps going through my head: "Wow, that smell is so familiar."

Don't worry, Sweetpea, nothing is wrong; I'm just here for a check-up. But for some reason, I keep having flashbacks of the PTSD kind as I'm sitting here. That fresh, new-office smell wafting through the place, the smell and sight of a fresh coat of cream-colored paint on the walls, the stacks of files lining the corner wall, the soft hum of music in the background, dim lighting. It all took me back today to the first time I stepped into this office in the spring when I was in the throes of that evil depression. And honestly, I can't quite figure it out. After all, I've been here since then, and it never bothered me. Well, I'm not saying it actually bothers me today -- maybe that's too strong of a word. I'm noticing it more today. It's making me remember all those emotions I was feeling at the time.

And then a few days ago, while out to lunch, I took one look at my mom and said, "Oh wow, hospital smell." She looked at me and knew exactly what I was talking about.

It was all too clear: The undeniable power of sense memory.
It seems our senses are always working overtime. Sights. Sounds. They all get stored in our subconscious as little pockets of time, ready to come out later and remind us of the past. And sometimes, like in my case, they reappear at the oddest of times, when we least expect it. Have you ever felt this way, Sweetpea?

But maybe it's good to have those types of sense memory wake-up calls every now and then. It helps us hold on just a little bit of the person we were while we look in that metaphorical mirror and see the reflection of the person we are today. And this may sound weird, but it sort of makes me feel as if I can connect with that person I was last year and at least try to reassure her that things are going to be OK. I look forward to making lots of sense memories with you, Sweetpea. Until we meet... xoxo

[Photos via Le Love]

Question of the Week: Question #9

2012-01-10T14:20:00.001-06:00

Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol), friends! Today's question comes to us from Jessi, who asks...

When did you first know that you wanted to be a journalist?
Honestly, I'm not sure when my love of writing and journalism started. If you ask my mom, she'll tell you that it started when I was a wee lass in elementary school. Apparently, I wrote a poem, full of descriptive prose about a girl running in a field with her hair blowing to the breeze. Or something like that -- I don't really remember said poem, and since no evidence of it remains, I'm forced to take my mother's word for it.

But I've always been sure of one thing: I'm probably the nosiest person you'll ever meet. Ever. I'm probably even worse than the paparazzi, actually. I've just always had this unquenchable curiosity. I like to know what's going on and what people are doing. Just ask my mom and sister -- I'm also asking, "What's going on?" and prying into their business. It drives them crazy. I don't do it on purpose; it's just a part of me. These questions just spring from my lips uncontrollably. I've always lived my life as an open book, and I suppose it never occurred to me that not everyone lives like that.
In high school, I joined the newspaper and realized that journalism was something I could possibly see myself doing in the future. Then, in college, I became editor of my college's newspaper. I really found my stride. I loved being in the middle of things, chasing down a story and seeing it all come together on the page.

And don't even get me started on the time I fell head-over-heels in love with the film All The President's Men, the film about how a young (very young!) Bob Woodward and Carl Bernstein broke the Watergate story in the Washington Post. I wanted to be the Woodward and Bernstein of my generation.

Oh, and what do you think of those photos, friends? The one on the left was taken 10 years ago, when I was editor of my college newspaper. The one on the right was taken last spring, in the same office, only now instead of editor of that paper, I'm the adviser. It's eerie and comforting all at the same time. I can't help but feel like I've come full circle. xoxo

P.S. See that little desk plaque in the left photo? My father made that for me! :)

Dear Future Girlfriend

2012-01-10T09:05:00.000-06:00

Isn't it funny, friends, how sometimes you somehow become Facebook friends with someone you barely knew in college and now, thanks to the beauty of social networking, you have kept up with what they're doing? I went to college with Nick, and although we barely knew each other, I was beyond happy (inspired!) when he recently launched Dear Future Girlfriend, an awesome collection of short notes to well, his future girlfriend. It's like my Letters To My Future Husband, only in bite-sized nuggets and directed at the opposite sex. A couple of my favorites so far...
How genius is it? Congrats, Nick!

P.S. I'm trying to talk him into a collaboration...any ideas? :)

Love Lounge: Who's on your Google list?

2012-01-09T14:00:00.001-06:00

Here's a 21st-Century question, friends: Do you burn the midnight oil typing people's names into that handy-dandy little thing called Google, staring for hours at the glowing light of the computer screen "oooohing" and "ahhhhing" over each new discovery?

Maybe you do. Maybe you don't. Maybe you don't want to admit it either way. But one thing is clear: Google has permanently etched its way into the English lexicon. It's no longer a Web site. It's a verb. People Google. And usually, people are googling other people.

Now, I'll admit that I'm a pretty big fan of Google when it comes to love. Googling is like watching preview before a movie. The previews don’t necessarily give anything away, but it also doesn’t leave you completely in the dark either. At the very least, it’s an efficient way to weed out the good from the bad. And while you probably won’t discover the guy’s entire life story with a few clicks of the mouse, you’ll find out the important parts (read: the OMG red flags) – depending on your level of Googling skills and your understanding of synonyms and word permutations.
Translation: you’ll get the perfect snapshot, like whether he has a criminal record, is wanted in another state (or country), whether he’s married or even whether he was once a she. Consider it the best form of pre-date contraception, a way to ward off the unwanted consequences of a not-so-great guy.

So, friends, tell me: Who do you Google the most? Your boyfriend? Your best friend? Your coworker? Yourself?

[Photos via Le Love

Etsy Love: Math pillows

2012-01-09T12:35:00.001-06:00

Remember when I mentioned that my father and I both took statistics at the same time, only at different colleges? Well, I couldn't help but smile and think of him when I stumbled across the fabulous etsy shop Nausicaa Distribution, a fun place where all the handmade goods are (you guessed it!) inspired by math and statistics. How awesome are these statistics pillows? They sort of make me want to bust out my calculator and graph paper!
And these coasters remind me of something the boys of The Big Bang Theory would have. Are you a math person, friend? xoxo

P.S. The shop even has baby things. How adorable -- you could raise a little mathematician! :)

Marital rating scale

2012-01-09T10:15:00.000-06:00

Oh my, how times have changed! In the 1930s, Dr. George W. Crane interviewed some 600 husbands and wives about the merits and demerits of their spouses. He then compiled the results into this rating scale (click the scale to enlarge). Not sure I'd make such a good wife... xoxo

[Via Ruby Press]

Man Candy Monday.

2012-01-09T08:40:00.000-06:00

Good morning, friends, and happy Monday. Now, I have a confession to make: I've been crushing on this guy since I was a wee teenager. While other girls were swooning over any one of the Backstreet Boys, I was in awe of this guy. Maybe it has something to do with my love of journalism, but I always used to imagine what it would be like to sit thisclose to him. Ack, I probably wouldn't even be able to speak. He's determined. He's passionate. And there's only one word to describe that smart brain of his: sexy...

MATT LAUER!!!!!!!!!!

"I get letters from women, and they say, 'I love your Roman nose.' If I weren't on TV and I walked past that same woman, she'd go, 'Did you see the beak on that guy?'"

Have a lovely weekend

2012-01-06T14:00:00.000-06:00

Happy Friday, friends! Do you have any fun plans for the weekend? We're getting together with one of my father's great aunts on Sunday. And more exciting news: The new blog design is thisclose to being finished. Be on the lookout for it in the next week or two. I'm SO excited to share it with you all. I hope you have a lovely, relaxing weekend, and here are my favorite finds from the wonderful Web...

Congrats, Jenna!

Doesn't this date night look fun?

Need inspiration for the New Year?

Found: Shoe love.

Living colorfully in 2012. How awesome is that?

Dream Home: Amazing stairs.

Snowy vintage winter wedding.

Take a cue from happy people.

The cool histories behind classic toys.

New Year's resolutions...in the sand!

Wavy hair tutorial.

Collared dresses, anyone?

Remember this.

Wow, a suspended glass office!

Dear New York City: I will always love you.

5 ways to feel instantly refreshed.

The best newspaper retraction ever.

Mmmmm, cheese.

Who's your favorite music man?

Aren't these yarn-wrapped letters awesome?

[Photo by Charles Gullung

Fashion Friday: What are your favorite pajamas?

2012-01-06T12:31:00.005-06:00

Isn't this comic funny? Confession: For as long as I can remember, I've always worn long T-shirts to bed. In fact, I've amassed quite the collection of university T-shirts over the years. But these pajamas have got me rethinking my nighttime attire of choice...

Pink vintage pajamas because, well, pink is obviously the best color in the entire world.

Cupcake satin pajamas to give me sweet dreams.

Flannel pajamas for a classic look and relaxed feel.

What do you think, friends? Don't they look comfy and cozy? What kind of pajamas are you wearing right now? Do you have a favorite pair you've had for years? Do you like to lounge in your PJs on the weekends? xoxo

I Liked You Better on Facebook

2012-01-06T09:50:00.000-06:00

I just couldn't resist posting this hilarious music video by comedian Livia Scott, who explores that all-too-common (and confusing!) predicament: When a person in real life just isn't as great as they seemed online. Omph...

Oxygen

2012-01-05T14:30:00.000-06:00

I just wrote this one this morning when I got to think of guys - and people in general -- who just bring us down in life. Sometimes, we let them bring us down in life when really, we should be walking away. And then we finally have that moment when we realize it's time to walk away. We can finally breathe again. Have you ever felt this way, friends? xoxo

The floors creak beneath my feet and remind me of when we used to dance
And how we'd dance through the night just to see the sun rise
Being with you was like a dream I could live forever
Now I can't tell the truth from the lies

That girl's face in the mirror
I don't recognize her anymore
What has she let herself become?
She thought it would be so easy
When all she's left with is a painful memory
Doesn't know how to breathe in a room full of oxygen

You made me believe that love was those stars I saw in your eyes and the way your hand felt in mine
But you dragged me down like an anchor
How could I not see those eyes fooling me?
Before I could catch my breath, your love pulled me under

That girl's face in the mirror
I don't recognize her anymore
What has she let herself become?
She thought it would be so easy
When all she's left with is a painful memory
Doesn't know how to breathe in a room full of oxygen

I'm not going down with your ship
So I'm saying goodbye, like two ghosts in the night
So I'm saying goodbye, like two ghosts in the night

That girl's face in the mirror
I don't recognize her anymore
What has she let herself become?
She thought it would be so easy
When all she's left with is a painful memory
Doesn't know how to breathe in a room full of oxygen

That girl's face in the mirror
I don't recognize her anymore
What has she let herself become?
She thought it would be so easy
When all she's left with is a painful memory
Doesn't know how to breathe in a room full of oxygen

[Photos via We Heart It]

Sleeping beauty

2012-01-05T11:50:00.000-06:00

During her maternity leave, new mom Adele Enersen photographed daughter Mila's snoozing sessions and imagined all the adventures the tiny tot was having in dream land.
She released the book When My Baby Dreams this week, full of more whimsical, dreamy and enchanting photos. Don't they remind you of a fairytale? Do you dream a lot, friends? What are your dreams usually about? Do you have the same ones over and over? xoxo

P.S. HarperCollins calls the book "a love letter to babies everywhere." Perfect!

P.P.S. Adele will welcome a new bundle of joy in the spring. Can we expect more photos? I sure hope so! :)

[Via TIME]

Found: The perfect winter meal

2012-01-05T09:42:00.000-06:00

Oh my goodness! It's been freeeeezing this week, so I've been on the look-out for ways to warm up. So far, my favorite spot is smack dab in front of our fireplace at night. Adding these individual pot pies to the mix would be perfect, don't you think, friends?

What's the weather like in your neck of the woods? How do you stay warm during the winter? Any tips or tricks? xoxo

MEMO TO MEN: Flirting with technology

2012-01-04T13:25:00.001-06:00

TO: Men all over the planet
FROM: Melissa
RE: I'm a spectacular flirt. Really.
DATE: January 4, 2012
I've realized something, boys (or maybe it's just slapping me over the head once again to remind me...): I'm a pretty, gosh-darn awesome flirt. I'm witty. I'm quick on my feet. I keep you on your toes. I'm good with those sarcastic zingers.

There's only one problem. All of that goodness is on paper -- or, I suppose, on the computer screen or Blackberry interface, depending on your level of smartphone smartness. When it comes to emails, Facebook, Twitter, even text messages, I can flirt with the best of them. Now granted, this is only with guys I know, and I'm too scared right now to take my act to those online dating sites as some of you boys have suggested, but it's so easy for my little fingers to type one-liners like it's nobody's business (remember Facebook Flirt?).

But something happens in the transition to real life, and I haven't quite figured it out, boys. I’ve tried to pick it up – this whole art of flirting thing – yet more often than not, the men on the receiving end (OK, and everyone else within earshot probably, too; I’m always honest, remember?) have virtually no idea what I’m doing. Or, if they do, they’re too polite (or scared?) to say anything. Their eyes just glaze over, and I’m pretty sure their reason for slowly inching backwards isn’t because I’ve blinded them with my advanced-level flirting skills.
Here’s what happened when I attempted some of the classic, old-school flirting techniques:

Eye Contact
The old-school flirting experts say this is a trademark move. Spot a guy, hold his gaze, smile coyly and then quickly look away. If pulled off correctly, said guy will take the hint of your subtle invitation, and slowly make his way across the room to you. After a few practices, including sporting different types of smiles, I came to the conclusion that, no, I hadn’t pulled it off correctly. My “guy spy” usually resulted in him walking (OK. Sometimes running) in the other direction. The key, I didn’t know, was to look briefly – any longer makes you look like a stalker. Guys, I apologize if I ever gave you the impression that I was a certifiable stalker. I’m not. Apparently, I just tend to lose track of time easily.

Hearty Laughter & The Hair Flip
In college, I fell hard for Greg. We worked on the college newspaper together. He was a witty writer with a penchant for sarcastic humor. I’d never been one of those people who laughs loudly in public (I figured my disability drew enough attention my way), but I liked Greg, so I took the opportunity to try the trick I’d seen my female coworkers do; they actually made it look cool, so why not, I thought? Greg and I would talk, he’d sling a sarcastic barb and I’d let it rip like a hyena. Later, I’d casually flip my hair back a la Marcia Brady. Looking back now, I think the whole scenario resembled more of a comedy than a serious drama. For one, my laugh tends to take the turn of a nervous tick when I’m, well, nervous (did I mention I tend to get very nervous around guys I like?). And two, my spine is fused, which makes the whole hair-flipping thing look more like an awkward twitch than a sly move.

Chat Him Up
This should be the easiest one, right? Sure, if you’re anyone but me. I’m a shy girl, so I don’t exactly have an advantage when it comes to thinking of something witty or at least non-awkward to say to that potential beau. But if my disability has given me one thing – aside from my petite frame – it’s a strong will of sheer determination. If I want something bad enough, I’m going to get it. Yet maybe I should have known that my fierce determination, coupled with my obvious awkwardness, would result in this: I pump myself up to talk to a guy, quickly go from being a Chatty Cathy to a Mumbling, sometimes Manic, Mary. Half the time, I either say the wrong thing, or can’t even remember what I said in the first place.
The verdict, boys, is clear: I should probably stick to virtual flirting for now. At least for awhile. Your phone or computer screen may not be able to handle my witty remarks, though. You've been warned, boys (see, there I am, being my awesome, flirty self)... xoxo

[Photos via Le Love]

Let's talk hairdos!

2012-01-04T11:18:00.000-06:00

How often do you change up your hairstyle? It's no secret, friends, that I've had the same simple 'do since the Dark Ages. OK, that's a bit of an exaggeration, but it feels like it sometimes. Take the photo above. That's me when I was a senior in high school.
And here's when I was in college. Identical photos? Oh, yes. I've always kept my hair short, so when I let it grow out a few months ago, I couldn't help but fall in love with it. I've always secretly wanted that sort of long, messy-with-a-purpose hair, but I'd invariably end up keeping it short because the longer length kept bothering me. So when I let it grow out for most of the fall, I thought I'd made it over that evil hair hump. Well, I broke down a few weeks ago and got a haircut. But I still dream! Here are three hairspirations I've got my eye on...

A fishtail braid that's chic and relaxed...

A waterfall braid for a low-key weekend...

And a tousled knot, complete with a flower, to show off your whimsical and romantic side....

So, friends, now it's your turn to dish about your 'do: What hairstyle do you have? Which style is your favorite from the three above? Do you change your hairstyle a lot? Where do you get your hair inspiration? xoxo

P.S. Redheads do have more fun! :)

P.P.S. A MEMO TO MEN coming your way shortly!

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2012-01-04T08:20:00.001-06:00

"Would it be beautiful, or just a beautiful disaster?" --Kelly Clarkson

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Love Lounge: When was the last time you cried?

2012-01-03T15:15:00.000-06:00

Crying. That taboo "C" word that people usually say quietly under their breath or hang their head just a bit lower so people won't see them uttering such a socially unacceptable word. The act itself is best done alone, or at least in the privacy of one's home, say most people. Take it to the streets and a national -- if not global -- epidemic is sure to develop.

Now, I'm obviously exaggerating here, friends, but I've been thinking about crying a lot these last few days. Maybe the holidays have tugged at my heartstrings one too many times this year. Maybe it's because it's hitting me that another year is dawning without my father. Who knows the reason, but I do know one thing: I'm not the sort of person who is ashamed to cry. At all, which is funny because my sister is the opposite. Growing up, I made my peace with crying at an early age. It was simply one way of expressing emotion for me. Sure, I suppose those trips to the hospital had something to do with it too, but I can't help but feel like crying quickly became my security blanket -- something to help me make sense of all that confusion.
Crying and I met again after my father died. I cried the most on the day he died; I suppose part of me didn't know what else to do. There were people surrounding me the whole day, family and friends streaming in and out of our tiny apartment, but I didn't care one bit if they saw tears rolling down my cheeks. In fact, it never even occurred to me to "put on a stoic face" for them. In the tug-of-war between modesty and emotional release, the latter won out.

And then when I struggled with depression, crying became almost like a reflex. It seemed like I cried over everything, and the littlest thing (like not being able to concentrate for very long) would just set me off. I felt utterly lost.
But crying, I soon found, had a hand in helping me find my way. A pretty big hand, actually. Because we all need to know that it's OK to cry, don't we? We need that reassurance that crying is not a sign of weakness, but a sign of strength. Because sometimes, really, we just need to cry. No judgment. No questions. Just some time to cry...and a box of tissues and a spare shoulder.

How cool would it be if there was an advertising campaign encouraging you to cry? I imagine a giant Kleenex box with a tissue peeking out of it and the words, "Go ahead...cry" written on the tissue. Would that be awesome?

So, friends, I'd love to know: When was the last time you cried? Do you remember what it was about? What makes you cry? Do you find yourself crying a lot? Do you cry more or less as you get older? xoxo

P.S. Men and crying.

[Photos via Le Love]

Question of the Week: Question #8

2012-01-03T13:45:00.002-06:00

Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol), friends! Today's question comes to us from S.M., who asks...

Would you ever get a tattoo? If so, what would it be and where? ;)

Ahhh, the eternal question: To get a tattoo or leave my skin forever clean and uninked? It's a tough one, I must admit. I know it might sound a bit funny, but I used to be sort of afraid of tattoos. I'd seen some people with huge, intricate tattoos adorning their arms, and as a small child, said tattoos did frighten me a bit. But as I've gotten older, I'm starting to think it would be sort of cool to get one. Not a large one, mind you -- being as short as I am, I figure if I get one too big, it will overshadow me, and of course, we don't want that, do we, friends? I'd want my small tattoo -- on my wrist -- to have some sort of story or meaning behind it, so here's what I've been thinking...
A musical note tattoo in honor of my love of music and newfound love of songwriting.

A butterfly tattoo to remind me that my disability should never hold me back from anything -- even flying!

A rose tattoo on my ankle because my father always called my sister and me rosebud.

A heart tattoo and an infinity tattoo for my romantic side.

Words like imagine, Let It Be, love, forever young, believe and wanderlust to always keep me inspired.
And of course, a tattoo of quotation marks for my love of writing and my geeky grammar side.

What do you think, friends? Do you have any of these tattoos? Any ones you dream of getting?

[Tattoo chart via Pinterest]

Mugshot wedding

2012-01-03T09:20:00.000-06:00

How creative are Kristi and Noah? Their crime: These super-awesome, mugshot-style photos they took before their wedding. I love how everyone (including her mom!) held signs to go along with their photo. Can you imagine how fun their reception must have been? Such a hoot! xoxo

[Photos by Lindsay Baumgartner and Jennifer Armstrong, via La Petite Choue

Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #146.

2012-01-02T14:24:00.002-06:00

Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
Well, here we are, Sweetpea...the second day of 2012. I suppose I should say here I am, considering I have zero idea who you are or where you are as I write this. But nonetheless, it is a new year. A time to make a new start. A time to make a change. A time to turn over a new leaf. Have we talked a lot about how we feel about the dawning of a new year? Some people are so nonchalant about it, and I've always wanted to be one of those people. To them, the new year is just another page turned on the calendar. It doesn't mean much, and it's certainly not a time to make resolutions -- the kind of resolutions that come with their own set of specific and precise instructions on how said resolutions will be accomplished over the next 12 months. Instead, they just go about their normal daily routine, sometimes not even pausing to think of all that has happened over the past year.

There's something to be said for their strategy. For one, it takes a whole heap of pressure off. I've always tried to avoid that pressure by focusing on the positives that lie ahead instead of constantly looking behind my shoulder into the past. I'm so excited to continue molding future Bob Woodward this year -- can you believe none of them have ever seen All The President's Men? That's one of my absolute favorite movies, but more on that later. I'm also looking forward to blogging over the next 12 months. Do you read my blog, Sweetpea? I still sometimes wonder if you read it, and I still can't wrap my head around the idea that you could be reading all about me while I know virtually nothing about you.
And who knows...this could be the year we meet. That's even sort of wild for me to think about. I could meet you in the aisle at the grocery store. I could meet you at the bookstore. The fact that there are so many possibilities is sort of what makes it even more exciting, you know? It's almost as if the anticipation of meeting this year would be just as thrilling as if we actually did meet.

But new beginnings can be incredibly daunting, can't they? Are you ready for said beginning? Is it even the sort of beginning that you want or need? Can you ever go back if you realize you've made a mistake? And sometimes, once you get that new beginning you always thought you wanted, it doesn't quite measure up to what you thought it would be.

I can hear the wind howling outside my windows as I write this. It's the sort of fierce, gusty and cold January wind that whips against your cheeks, leaving little red patches in its wake. And it just occurred to me: Like a glass filled only halfway with water, I suppose there are two ways to look at the wind. On the one hand, you could see the wind as a detrimental foe that's holding you back. Or, you could see it as a wild force that's propelling you ever forward. I'm going to let the wind push me forward this year, Sweetpea, into a year of new adventures. Until we meet... xoxo

[Photos via Le Love]

Remake Project

2012-01-02T12:40:00.007-06:00

Have you heard about Booooooom's Remake Project? The contest asks entrants to remake classic works of art using photograhy. How genius is that, friends? My jaw practically dropped when I saw how eerily similar some of the photographs were to the original work of art! What famous works of arts would you like to tackle? Did you know what work of art each photograph was based on -- without cheating? xoxo

P.S. A new Letter To My Future Husband is coming up shortly! :)

[Thanks, Leigh!]

Overused words

2012-01-02T10:30:00.000-06:00

Last week, Michigan's Lake Superior State University published its 37th annual List of Words Banished from the Queen's English for Misuse, Overuse and General Uselessness. The list, which contains some dozen words or phrases, is based on nominations from around the globe. The word that got the most nominations this year? Amazing -- it received more than 1,500 nominations. My three favorites from the list are above, along with explanations by those who nominated them.

What do you think of the list, friends? Do you agree or disagree with the words? What words do you think are overused? Any words that just particularly annoy you?

P.S. More word fun!

[Via The Huffington Post]

Man Candy Monday.

2012-01-02T08:16:00.000-06:00

Good morning, friends, and happy new year! Are you excited for 2012? Did you stay up until midnight? Today's awesome guy did, so I thought it only appropriate to feature him today. He just might be the hardest working guy in Hollywood. His smile could light up any room. And he's not afraid to talk back to a certain Mr. Cowell...

RYAN SEACREST!!!!!!!!!!

"I have a feeling this is going to be a good year. Welcome 2012. Let's have some fun." --Twitter

Have a wonderful weekend

2011-12-30T15:05:00.000-06:00

Happy Friday, friends, and Happy (almost!) New Year! Can you believe 2011 is almost over? Are you excited for 2012? What are your plans for the weekend? We're getting together with some friends to celebrate the holidays -- it's sort of nice to have another holiday gathering after Christmas to look forward to! I hope you enjoyed the more fun, light-hearted posts this week. Next week, we'll be back with your regularly scheduled programming (like Letters To My Future Husband and MEMO TO MEN), but in the meantime, here are my favorite finds from the wonderful Web...

Oh, I love sparkly purses!

Dear Snow: Where are you?

A fruit-of-the-month club!

Isn't this modern chair calendar cool?

Which Twitter type are you?

Awww alert: Cats in party hats!

So romantic.

How perfect is this Victorian-style umbrella?

I could eat holiday cookies all year.

This would make an awesome wedding gift -- simple and meaningful.

Awesome Etsy prints.

Ellen is running a great special-needs parenting feature on her blog!

Bathroom makeover.

Do you take winter trips?

Don't you love all these necklaces?

How many of these books have you read?

Mustache sticks make any party better!

Good how-to tips for keeping your New Year's resolution.

Congrats to Sandy on her new bundle of joy!

And congrats to former Glamour magazine blogger Meredith Bodgas on the launch of her new blog Merital Bliss! Follow her adventures from bridal to cradle!

[Photo via Oh, Pioneer]

Do you make New Year's resolutions?

2011-12-30T12:15:00.000-06:00

Confession: I've always had a love-hate relationship with New Year's resolutions. When I was younger, it seemed so easy to come up with those grand plans that I was going to accomplish over the next 12 months. Tell Crush Boy (finally!) how I felt, for example. And most years, when December 31 rolled around and I realized that I'd forgotten what my resolution even was in the first place, I resigned myself to the fact that resolutions and I just weren't friends.

Two years ago, I wrote of just wanting to be happy. And honestly, this sounds like a refreshingly perfect way to approach the coming year, doesn't it?

So, friends, do you make New Year's resolutions? Are they usually the same every year? What is your resolution this year? What will you miss most about 2011? What are you excited about in 2012? xoxo

P.S. The top 10 cities for ringing in the New Year!

[Photo via wit + delight]

Fashion Friday: New Year's Eve style

2011-12-30T08:15:00.000-06:00

Are you going anywhere for New Year's Eve, friends? Wouldn't these sparkly shoe clips from ban.do look awesome with...
...these great with ruby red toes peeking out? :)

P.S. More New Year's talk coming up shortly! xoxo

What are your favorite board games?

2011-12-29T14:20:00.001-06:00

I've had a rather interesting realization this week: My mother is a bad influence on me. We're both on vacation this week, and each day's events have unfolded in practically the same way. I'll wake up, eat breakfast and then attempt to open my laptop to get some work done. And invariably, I'll hear my mom utter those three little word: "It's. Game. Time."

She's a woman who loves playing games -- board games, cards games, puzzles. She always has, and on vacation, her urge to play is somehow kicked into overdrive. I jokingly try to tell her that "Mommy has work to do," but in the end, I never really put up much of a fight. It would probably be pointless, anyway. This week, we've been, as my mother calls us, "game-playing fools," yet we always go back to a few favorites...
*Yahtzee: I don't remeber when we started playing regularly (shortly after my father died, I think), but this game always plays into both of our competitive sides. Plus, it's fast-paced, and those dice make you feel like you're in Las Vegas. Did you know I have a secret love of casinos, friends? No? Ooooh, well, then, more about that later. :)
*Bananagrams: This is a great off-shoot of Scrabble, but what I love is that you make your own board of words instead of adding onto someone else's. This one really gets my heart pumping (I've been on a winning streak this week too!).
*Trouble: My mom picked up this childhood favorite for Christmas. I haven't played it in years, but it's fun to pop that bubble!
*Monopoly: My favorite game of all time. This is the sort of game that can last for hours (even days), and in high schOol, my best friend and I would just play and play and play. Fun fact: I am so OCD about getting Park Place and Boardwalk (I have to own them) that I will mortage everything I have to get it.

Do you play a lot of games, friends? Do you have favorites you always find yourself going back to? Do you have family game nights? What games are you dying to try? Any recommendations? And...do you have a competitive streak? I do...big time!! xoxo

Facebook and Pinterest update

2011-12-29T12:55:00.000-06:00

Remember a few weeks ago when I mentioned that So About What I Said was getting a little makeover? Well, it's coming soon, but in the meantime, I wanted to share two exciting things with you! I've updated the Facebook and Pinterest pages, so now you all can follow along -- and hopefully be inspired too! I'll be continually updating them, so be sure to check back!

I'm also brainstorming fun, exclusive things to add to the Facebook page in the new year. Any ideas, friends? Let's get inspired together, shall we? xoxo

Etsy Love: Sparkly New Year's Eve flutes

2011-12-29T08:45:00.001-06:00

I love these hand painted champagne flutes (in blue and pearl shades), but since I don't drink, here's a fun twist I came up with for New Year's Eve merriment: Toast to some bubbly root beer. Don't you love the glittery snowflake design, friends? Perfect! xoxo

Peek Inside: Wall of family photos

2011-12-28T14:50:00.001-06:00

For my next Peek Inside, I'd love to show you one of the favorite spots in my house: Our wall of family photos. We'd had the photos of my paternal and maternal grandparents adorning the walls for awhile. Above are my maternal and paternal grandparents, respectively.
But over the holidays, my mother found a few more photos in our basement and decided to create a full-on family wall. I love being able to just stand in front of it and feel like all the most important people in my life are with me, even if they're thousands of miles away.
It's a comforting thought, isn't it, friends? I'd love to know: Do you have a lot of family photos hanging in your house? Where do you like to display them? Do you have a big family or a small one? xoxo

P.S. Do you see the photo of me in the upper left-hand corner of the third photo? That's my senior photo from high school...and I practically look the same. Exactly the same. What's up with that?? :)

Shooting star tattoo

2011-12-28T12:50:00.000-06:00

Speaking of stars (and with the new year coming up... ), this shooting star tattoo has me daydreaming of making wishes today. What about you, friends? xoxo

P.S. A colorful star tattoo and more tattoo love.

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2011-12-28T09:45:00.000-06:00

"I just called to say I love you." --Stevie Wonder

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Question of the Week: Question #7

2011-12-27T17:30:00.000-06:00

Have a question? I'd love to hear it, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol), friends! Today's question comes to us from Dancing Branflakes, who asks...

What would be your dream gift from a guy?

Oh, what a fun question! It's probably sort of obvious that I gravitate toward the romantic gifts -- those kind that make you go, "Awww, this is so sweet of you." But I'm not much of a flowers-and-chocolate kind of girl. I like the kinds of gifts that are a bit more permanent. The kinds you bring out 50 years later and tell the whole story to your grandchildren.

I'm also a big fan of giving gifts every once in awhile for no special reason. A Just Because gift, if you will. It's fun to be surprised, and to see the surprised look on someone's face when you give them a gift just because. Two Just Because gifts I've been fantasizing about lately...

Name a star: How romantic is this? I've always found space and the galaxies so intriguing, and it would be neat to think of the special guy every time I looked up into the sky.
A personal mix CD: Music is just about my favorite thing in the world, and we all have that song (mine is Fields of Gold) that has always been our favorite. And since I'm a lyrics girl, it would be so sweet if a guy picked up on that and made a mix with some of my favorite songs on it.

This question also makes me wonder, though: Is there gift-giving etiquette based on how long you've been dating someone? For instance, would it be inappropriate to get the same gift for a guy you've been dating for a year and the guy you've only been dating a few months? Is there some sort of chart for this, with boundary lines that shouldn't be crossed? If not, someone should get on that stat. I'd hate to be on the receiving end of a surprise for the wrong reasons, wouldn't you? xoxo

[Top chart via I Love Charts, photos via Pinterest and We Heart It]

The Nicest Place on the Internet

2011-12-27T11:15:00.002-06:00

Need a hug? The Internet's got you covered. :)

P.S. More hugs here.

[Via Swissmiss]

Would you like to advertise in the new year?

2011-12-27T08:30:00.002-06:00

Would you like to advertise on So about what I said... in 2012? The new year is shaping up to be fun and exciting around these parts as we explore fashion, design, weddings, shopping and of course, honest talk about love and life!

My 3,000+ readers are dedicated, vibrant and enthusiastic. They shop online regularly and are always looking for unique and beautiful items. Ads are displayed and rotated weekly on the left sidebar and giveaway options are available with the purchase of an ad at no extra cost. My rates are ideal venues for small businesses, including online shop owners, Etsy sellers, photographers, bloggers and designers.

Please email mellow1422 (at) aol (dot) com for rates and specials. Thank you so much, and I look forward to working with you! xoxo

[Image designed by the wonderful Ez]

Facebook history of the world

2011-12-26T15:33:00.002-06:00

Have you ever imagined what historical records would look like if George Washington had been able to update his Facebook status when he became the first president of the United States? How genius is this Facebook history of the world? It imagines what newsfeeds would have looked like if Facebook existed during everything from The Middle Ages to the 1990s. Also interspersed are funny status updates from historical figures and newsmakers. I must have sat at the kitchen table for 30 minutes today reading my favorite entries to my sister as she did some work around the house. It totally made me smile! xoxo

P.S. Don't forget to follow So About What I Said on Facebook!

P.P.S. More decade-related posts: '50s, '60s, '70s, '80s, '90s and '00s.

[Via College Humor]

Behind The Blog: That's What She Said

2011-12-26T13:00:00.000-06:00

Friends, today we get to know Kathy, a self-proclaimed animal lover and Harry Potter enthusiast who will talk your ear off about both subjects. As she says, "I'm a total nerd and proud of it. I love math." Check out her tale, and as always, I'd love to feature you and your blog, so feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol)...

Quick facts
Name...Kathy Schneider
Birthday...February 23
Where are you from...Maryland
3 words that describe you...Nerdy, Excitable, Loyal
Occupation...I'm currently looking for a job.
Blog: That's What She Said
When did you start your blog...May 2011
What inspired you to start a blog?
I initially started a blog as a place for me to share what I was up to and what I was thinking with friends and family that I don't get to see that often. I love writing, so this became a great place for me to express myself.

What do you love the most about blogging? Does anything about it stress you out?
I love having an outlet to express myself and new friends from around the world. Blogging doesn't really stress me out, although sometimes it can be frustrating when I really want to blog about something in my life, but can't because I know that the people I want to complain about might be reading it.

If you had to describe your blog in one sentence, what would you say
Kathy talks about reading, writing, Harry Potter, animals, her family and life in general.

What has blogging taught you?
I have met so many wonderful people through blogging that like me for who I am, so I've learned that I don't have to put up with the people in my life who won't accept me unless I change for them. I like who I am more than I ever have, and I have all my blogging friends to thank for that.
What advice do you have for new bloggers?
Write about what you want to write about. If you just write about things that you think will make your blog popular, you won't get much out of it. And don't be afraid to comment. When I started, I was always nervous about commenting for the first time on someone's blog because I was afraid they would be like, "Who the heck is this person?", but I've never actually met a blogger who was ever upset about getting a comment from a new commenter.

Where do you see yourself and your blog in 5 years?
I honestly have no idea. I'm sure I'll still be blogging about books and TV shows and Harry Potter and my family. Although by then, I assume my family will include some children of my own.

What has surprised you the most about blogging?
How wonderful the blogging community is. I've never met a group of people who are more accepting and caring. When I started blogging, it was for my family. I never expected to make so many friends through blogging, but I am so happy that I did.

P.S. Want to discover more awesome blogs? Catch up on all the Behind The Blog interviews! :)

Man Candy Monday.

2011-12-26T09:15:00.000-06:00

Happy day-after-Christmas, friends! Do you have the day off today? I hope you had a lovely holiday with the people you love the most. I had a relaxing day full of games, my mom's delicious fruit salad and a piece or two (or three...) of chocolate -- it's become a tradition every year that we buy a big box of assorted chocolates and eat some while we open gifts.

But I digress. I just discovered today's guy over the last few months. He's the star of one of my new favorite shows. He's talented. He's got one of those inviting smiles. And he makes being bad look downright fun...

JOSHUA BOWMAN!!!!!!!!!!

"[I like to be] challenged mentally. I like to be, you know, kept on my toes." --PEOPLE magazine

P.S. I thought it would be fun to have more light-hearted posts this week as we recover from all that holiday merriment! :)

Happy Holidays!

2011-12-23T17:20:00.000-06:00

Happy Friday and Happy Holidays to you all, my dear friends. Here's to a wonderfully relaxing weekend of peace and joy spent with family and friends. I'm sending you giant hug through the computer. Can you feel it? I'll be eating lots of sweets this weekend watching holiday movies (I haven't seen Home Alone in ages...). I'll see you all on Monday, but in the meantime, here are my favorite finds from the wonderful Web...

What made you happy this week?

Mad Men gift guide = AWESOME!

Gorgeous holiday hair here + here.

And some glitter nail polish.

The greatest rock & roll Christmas songs.

Dream Home: Canopy beds. Sigh...

A great how-to for enjoying the holidays if you're single.

Genius: Snow in a can!

Happy one-year blogiversary, Lindsay!

Wouldn't you love to go manatee watching?

Mmmm, I never get tired of broccoli cheddar soup! What's your favorite kind of soup?

Tiffany is the best dancer, isn't she?

Vote for Elliot!

Ooooh, I want this hedgehog coin purse!

A ranking of TV's most popular hangouts.

Big question: Can friends share exes?

So true.

A satellite view of a frost-covered United Kingdom.

How famous brands got their names.
And I couldn't resist posting this graphic. Isn't it cute? xoxo

[Photo via Just Be Splendid]

Fashion Friday: The Murse

2011-12-23T13:46:00.004-06:00

Here's a new fashion trend for your Friday, friends: The Murse. I know, I know..it sounds like a dance from the 1960s, but it's the furthest thing from vintage. It's the newest thing in men's fashion, a combination of (you guessed it... ) man and purse. A bag for men, if you will. The new blog Murse Game even chronicles this trend, featuring street-style photos of men proudly showing off their bags.

Have you spotted any Murses yet? Fun fact: My father always carried a messenger bag to work, so I figure he started the trend, don't you? :)

P.S. More examples of Murses here.

[Via Refinery29]

Chocolate peppermint roll

2011-12-23T10:20:00.000-06:00

Chocolate and peppermint? I'm sold!

P.S. A Fashion Friday post coming up! :)

[Via Joy The Baker]

Would You Rather: Do all your holiday shopping early or wait until the last minute?

2011-12-22T14:43:00.000-06:00

Friends, let's have some more holiday fun today, shall we? As we get closer to Christmas (it's only 3 days away now...yikes!), it seems like our calendars may explode with office parties, packing for vacation, cookie baking, family parties, general merriment. Sigh...

And one more to-do item on some people's calendars? Shopping. I'll admit that I'm sometimes that person: I leave all my shopping until the last possible second. Not my aunt, though. She usually has all her shopping done by Halloween (can you believe that??).
So, friends, I ask you: Would you rather do all of your shopping early or wait until the last second? Do you think doing it early takes away some of the magic of the season? Do you hate battling the crowds when you wait until, say, Christmas Eve? xoxo

[Photos via We Heart It]

Little Paris paintings

2011-12-22T11:15:00.000-06:00

As I mentioned before, we're staying close to home for the holidays this year, but these beautiful paintings by Paul Ferney make me want to hop on a plane right now. I'd love to see the Eiffel Tower all lit up, wouldn't you, friends? Sigh...

The shortest day of the year

2011-12-22T08:00:00.000-06:00

Do you get the winter blues, friends? During these cold months, when the sun sets by 4:30 p.m. and the skies can be generally gloomy even during the day, it can be easy to start feeling a little blah. But the good news? Today is the Winter Solstice -- the first official day of winter and the shortest day of the year. After today, we'll see a little more light each day (yay!!), but I say we make today a holiday. After all, it's the perfect excuse to eat warm soup, sit in front of the burning fireplace, watch a favorite holiday movie, play games or bake delicious cookies.

So, tell me, friends: Do you ever get the winter blues? What do you do to cheer yourself out of a funk? And how are you going to relax today? Let's chat! xoxo

[Photos via We Heart It]

Letters To My Future Husband: Letter #145.

2011-12-21T14:01:00.000-06:00

Dear Mr. Melissa Blake:
As the great John Lennon once sang, "So this is Christmas." There's so much power in those four little words, isn't there, Sweetpea? So much promise. Here we are, four days away from Christmas in 2011, and it feels decidedly unlike the Holly Jolly season. No snow. The temps are in the upper '40s. And in fact, the closest thing to any hint of a holiday coming up is the fact that I'm sitting here eating a candy cane as I write this (Warning: I'm a candy cane fiend, so be prepared for me to eat a lot of them...). Sometimes, I'm even such a rebel that I take to stealing them from our Christmas tree.

But I digress. Seriously, though, it's major holidays like these that make me think of you and wonder where you are. I wonder if you're spending time with your friends, your family or spending a quiet holiday alone. I suppose I should let you know now that once you and I become a we, our hopes for a quiet holiday alone will forever be dashed. Take last weekend, for example. I celebrated Christmas with my father's family. He has five siblings. I have 10 cousins. And one of my cousins has three children. The grand total for the shindig? Almost 30 people. Let's just say that my house was hopping well into the evening, which, as you'll come to find out, is a rare occurrence for me.
It's nice to see my family, but it's always been sort of bittersweet since my father died. His siblings remind me so much of him, even down to some of their mannerisms, and this past weekend, it felt like a part of him was with us, celebrating just like we used to. Have I ever told you just how much of a family man my father was? Family meant more to him than anything, and I've been thinking about that a lot this holiday season, Sweetpea. Family. The holidays are all about family, and when part of your family is missing, the wound in your heart stings just a teeny bit more this time of year.

Don't get me wrong, Sweetpea. I'm so grateful for my family. They are incredible, and if not for them, I wouldn't be who I am today. It's just that these big events mark more milestones since he's been gone. This will be my ninth Christmas without him, and frankly, that just blows my mind. It seems like it was just yesterday when we'd all sit around the tree at my grandparents' house in Alabama, my father acting as Santa and passing out all the presents.
But those are some good memories, aren't they? Memories that can never be taken away from me. These are the sorts of memories I hope we create with each other. I look forward to those days with you, Sweetpea. Those days of making memories without even realizing it. Those days of looking around the room, at all our family, and realizing that everyone that we love is with us. Those days where everything feels right with the world.

So until we meet, that is my wish for you this holiday season, Sweetpea. I hope you're surrounded by everyone you love. I hope your holiday is everything you ever wanted it to be. And who knows. Maybe someday we'll meet under the mistletoe. Until we meet... xoxo

[Photos via We Heart It]

Three funny holiday charts

2011-12-21T13:15:00.001-06:00

To make you smile so you don't become a grinch... :)

[Via I Love Charts, via Nick Douglas]

How I Feel (In 5 Photos) Wednesday.

2011-12-21T09:45:00.000-06:00

"I'll be home for Christmas." --Bing Crosby

[Photos via My Summer Twist]

Love Lounge: Do you know your parents' engagement story?

2011-12-20T14:29:00.000-06:00

My parents got engaged 34 years ago this week -- yesterday, in fact, to be more precise. I was talking about it with my mom last night when I realized that I didn't know very much of the story behind their E Day. So being the curious person that I am, I began to subtly interrogate her with questions.

Who proposed?
Where did the romantic moment take place?
Was a sparkler presented?

I was expecting an elaborately detailed and romantic proposal, complete with a string quartet. I'd always imagined my father having memorized his speech, with a copy of it in his shirt pocket in case he got nervous and forgot his lines. I pictured my mother sitting next to him after he proposed, looking down at her ring, and then both of them dreaming up plans for their perfect wedding.

Surprisingly, though, my mom told me the entire affair was actually pretty low-key. My father proposed to her in his parents' house. He was 26, and my mom was 21. He didn't have a ring at the time, so they went and picked one out together.

I'd always thought I'd wanted that fairytale, romantic proposal full of "I love yous" and "forevers" and "soul mate." But maybe you can still have that even with a not-so-traditional proposal. My parents did, and they were the most in-love couple I've ever met. So maybe in the end, that whole grand, over-the-top proposal isn't really all that important. It's romantic, sure, but it's what comes days, months and even years after saying "Yes" that matters the most.

So, friends, I'd love to know: Do you know your parents' engagement story? Was it traditional or more unique? Does your mom still have her engagement ring (that's one question I forgot to ask my mom!)? Are you currently engaged? Are you planning to pop the question soon? Do you think a beau is planning to pop the question to you soon? Let's talk all things engagement, friends... xoxo

P.S. Four romantic engagement shoots.

Question of the Week: Question #6

2011-12-20T11:30:00.002-06:00

Remember when we discussed favorite songs last week? Did you get to thinking about your own? I'd love to hear more of them, and as always, feel free to email me (mellow1422 [at] aol) with your questions, friends...
“It’s Over” (Boz Scaggs)
Key lyrics: Why can’t you just get it through your head?/It’s over, it’s over now.
A song for anyone who has ever had trouble, well, getting it through their head and realizing something has been over for quite awhile; all the while, you’re the last one to realize said ending. Oh, and if you need a laugh after reading these depressing lyrics, just picture this: Me, sitting alone in my room singing this at the top of my lungs. If you want proof, just ask my sister.

"Fields of Gold" (Sting)
Key lyrics: Will you stay with me, will you be my love?/Among the fields of barley/We'll forget the sun in his jealous sky/As we lie in the fields of gold.
It’s probably really unconventional, but I’ve loved this song since I first heard it when I was 12. It's been my all-time favorite song ever since. I've even been known to listen to it on repeat for long stretches of time -- we're talking hours here, friends. But, seriously, don’t you think this would be a really romantic song to slow dance to?

"(I Just) Died In Your Arms Tonight" (Cutting Crew)
Key lyrics: Is there any just cause for feeling like this?/On the surface I'm a name on a list/I try to be discreet, but then blow it again.
Just change the female pronouns to masculine ones in this song, and this one is pretty obvious, isn’t it? Just picture me, trying ever-so-subtly to be cool, calm and discreet, and not five minutes later, I say or do something incredibly awkward. Sometimes both simultaneously.

“Hey Stephen” (Taylor Swift)
Key lyrics: Hey Stephen, I know looks can be deceiving/But I know I saw a light in you/And as we walked we were talking/I didn't say half the things I wanted to.
I always said that had this song come out in, oh, 1998, I would have died right on the spot. Big reveal: Crush Boy’s name is Stephen. Back then, I never said all the things I wanted to. Flashforward to 2009. I said everything. It didn’t end so well. Live and learn, right?

[Photo via We Heart It]